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I am picking up our new puppy tomarrow (a havanese) and all the sudden I am feeling a little apprehensive. What if I am making a mistake getting another dog? What is I am not ready? I mean, I think I am ready. We have been looking forward to this for a while, but why am I feeling so scared all of the sudden??

I guess I am scared that Bella won't like the new puppy. I don't know why she wouldn't, she has never met a dog she didn't like. But what if them both being a female is a problem later on? Maybe I should get a male puppy, but I really wanted a female. Am I just crazy or has anyone else ever felt like this before you brought home a new puppy??
 

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You, Bella and the new puppy will do fine. Uncertainty always provokes a little fear response; after all, you're only human :D
 

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You, Bella and the new puppy will do fine. Uncertainty always provokes a little fear response; after all, you're only human :D
Thank you for the kind words, I guess I just worry too much. You know, it is a huge commitment. I mean if everything goes well I will be spending the next 12+ years with this puppy. Its almost like having another human baby:eek:, never mind, not that scary :D!!!
 

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IMO, the fact that there are some "nerves" involved just shows that you've thought this thing through. It's SCARY introducing a new puppy into your home! I'm a first-time puppy owner, and I can already tell you- I was TERRIFIED at first! I was terrified right afterward! ...for the whole first week!!! Then I saw how beautifully she fit into our home.

Pair that with wondering how she'll adjust with your Bella, and it's perfectly normal to get cold feet. Just wait until you get your new baby :) I'm certain that within a few days, you'll wonder what life was like without her!

Congrats on you puppy! Please post pictures:D
 

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First of all you're getting one of the most wonderful breeds out there! I groom about 2 dozen and every one has been the best temperament of any breed I have done. They will establish their "pecking order" and within no time you'll have a happy family. Just my opinion as a Professional groomer and breeder.
 

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Don't worry too much, I'm going through pre-puppy jitters, too! Make sure to take lots of pictures of the new puppy and Bella, and give Bella an extra hug or two :D
 

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I felt just like that before getting the babies... all that will melt away! :) I can't WAIT to see photos of your new baby!!!!!!!
 

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Thank you everyone!!! I feel much better knowing that I am not just crazy, well I may still be crazy, but not because of this :)!!! I am sure Bella will do great with the new puppy; she has such good self confidence. (Yea, she knows she is all that!!)

My kids and I are very excited, but the jitters are still there. I am sure I will feel much better when I am squeezing that tiny little fuzzy baby :p and smelling her little puppy breath. Really, doesn't puppy breath make everything better??:)
 

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I would say you're apprehensive because you have a lot of hope for an uncertain future. But that's one of the great things about dogs...they remind us how important it is to LIVE in the now. So, appreciate the apprehension for what it is...a canvas on which you'll paint your experiences with your new pup.
 

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I would say you're apprehensive because you have a lot of hope for an uncertain future. But that's one of the great things about dogs...they remind us how important it is to LIVE in the now. So, appreciate the apprehension for what it is...a canvas on which you'll paint your experiences with your new pup.
Awww.......what a sweet way to think about it, thank you!!! That is a beautiful way to word it!!!
 

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I felt like this for our second and third dog. My mutt has always loved the company of other dogs, and I convinced myself she would hate a new one, even though we took her to meet each of them before they came home. Within a day her and my Elkhound were wrestling and following each other around, and she accepted my doxie in the same way. Jack McCoy (Elkhound) however, took a while. Even though he seemed fine with my doxie at the shelter, at home was a whole 'nother story. They're pals now, but he does NOT like any thing smaller than him. It's not prey drive, he's actually terrified of little dogs/cats.
 

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I've always been of the mindset that things will work out, yet felt much the same way you're feeling when I was driving across to the other Coast to pick Lucia up! Maddy and I are so close (spent her first 6 mo. with me 24/7), and though I already had two other dogs, they're males, and THIS puppy was a female. In addition, I have a male cat (fomer feral), who "packs his bags and moves out" whenever I bring home a foster dog! He will NOT come into the house until the foster is GONE! LOL

Things couldn't have worked out better. Not only did Maddy accept her, she mothered her, and absolutely adores her! Tommy (feral cat) didn't move out, he followed her into her crate and took a nap with her! My jaw about hit the floor!
 

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I've always been of the mindset that things will work out, yet felt much the same way you're feeling when I was driving across to the other Coast to pick Lucia up! Maddy and I are so close (spent her first 6 mo. with me 24/7), and though I already had two other dogs, they're males, and THIS puppy was a female. In addition, I have a male cat (fomer feral), who "packs his bags and moves out" whenever I bring home a foster dog! He will NOT come into the house until the foster is GONE! LOL

Things couldn't have worked out better. Not only did Maddy accept her, she mothered her, and absolutely adores her! Tommy (feral cat) didn't move out, he followed her into her crate and took a nap with her! My jaw about hit the floor!
Bella and I are like you said you and Maddy were. She is with me everywhere, even goes to the bathroom with me, lol, and I guess I am more afraid about that than anything. I just have this unsettling fear of "what is Bella gets upset, o what if I can' love this puppy as much as I love Bella?" I am sure that my kids and hubby could pick up the slack, as I am hoping that this puppy will be there pet too (Bella is MINE! she likes the oher people in our "pack", but she lets them know that she belongs to me :) ).

What kind of dog is Maddy and how old was she when you got Lucia? I am hoping that Bell will want to mother our new baby and that is why I am getting a puppy puppy and not an older puppy or dog. Oh my I hope this works out!!
 

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Bella and I are like you said you and Maddy were. She is with me everywhere, even goes to the bathroom with me, lol, and I guess I am more afraid about that than anything. I just have this unsettling fear of "what is Bella gets upset, o what if I can' love this puppy as much as I love Bella?" I am sure that my kids and hubby could pick up the slack, as I am hoping that this puppy will be there pet too (Bella is MINE! she likes the oher people in our "pack", but she lets them know that she belongs to me :) ).

What kind of dog is Maddy and how old was she when you got Lucia? I am hoping that Bell will want to mother our new baby and that is why I am getting a puppy puppy and not an older puppy or dog. Oh my I hope this works out!!
Maddy is a Standard Poodle (as is Beau and Lucia), Luc is a Shih Tzu. Maddy was 7 yrs. old when I brought Lucia home (she'll be 8 yrs. May 19th), and oh yes, she is MINE and all mine! LOL My daughter and grandson lived w/me when Maddy was a 5-month old puppy. I work nights, so sleep during the day. Anyway, when my daughter would get home, she couldn't understand why Maddy wouldn't come out to greet them - she stayed on the bed with me! Wherever I am, that's where Maddy is. Beau and Lucia are the same way, and for that matter, so is Luc! The bathroom gets very crowded! LOL

As thrilled with Lucia as Maddy was, Beau not so much. Luc loves her, because he loves to get rowdy playing, and a puppy accommodates that all the time. Beau has needed extra TLC, to assure him that he's still mama's boy. When I'm working w/Lucia, I've noticed a look in Maddy's eyes - so, I've actually included her in the session, asking her to help me. Thank God that look is gone! I make sure they each get their one-on-one time w/me, even if it's only to get in the car and drive around the block! (Going in the car is a real big deal to my crew.)

Don't worry, all will go well. You know Bella, so will be able to discern what's going on w/her.
 

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you ever have those moments where you are afaid to go home for fear of what will ensue when you walk in the door? Thats how I felt when we brought Ruby home...I was only going to look at the puppies, I had ZERO intention of bringing one home...lol...I was worried about Quincy and how he would feel with a puppy around. He hates puppies, they are just to bouncy and in your for his liking.

However they get along great, it took a few days before he would allow himself to investigate Ruby, but once that happened....Its actually kinda cool, Quincy has never been a dog that likes to play, but since Ruby has been here he plays regularly, She brought some puppy out of Quincy, he plays like a puppy lol. He has actually gotten a bit more bolder since Roo has come, he isn't so nervous and sleeps a little less.
 

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So today is the big day?

I wouldn't worry too much about them getting along - even though they're the same gender. The contrast in their ages will help with that. Esther took young Molly under her maternal protective wing the first time she saw her and now that they are close to the same size, they are still best buds.
 

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So today is the big day?

I wouldn't worry too much about them getting along - even though they're the same gender. The contrast in their ages will help with that. Esther took young Molly under her maternal protective wing the first time she saw her and now that they are close to the same size, they are still best buds.
Actually, yesturday was the day, but I had a vet emergency and I didn't get to pick her up :(. I had a very sick cat that had to be taken care of first. So, now tomorrow (Saturaday) is the big day. I can't hardly wait!!! I am getting her at 11am!! You guys be looking for pictures!!!:D:D
 
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