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Hi all! I’ve been referencing this forum a lot lately, as we just brought home a puppy. I really need some insight & help.
Long story short, my husband and I have 3 kids ages 8, 5 & 1. We have been wanting to add a pet to our family for years and did a couple years worth of research on which breed we wanted, waited for the right time for our family. When the quarantine happened, we decided it was a good time to get our 8 week old French bulldog since we are all home to bond and share responsibilities. We paid a sh*t ton of money and in the 11th hour, the breeder let us know there were some hind leg issues with our puppy. Claimed it was from laying on its stomach and nursing so much. Legs were splayed, Took her to their vet for me, vet said the puppy checked out and it would correct itsself with exercise that it wasn’t getting at the breeder’s. I still had reservations. Obviously we were heart-broken. Asked for videos, sent those videos to a couple of different vets. Vets said for us walk away and that it looked like she at one point had “swimmer puppy syndrome.” We walked away. A few days later, the breeder messages us and said she had been working with her all weekend and she improved a ton. Her legs were under her versus out to the side and she was out running around in the videos. Sent the videos to the vet, they said puppy looked fine, no guarantees. I felt like it was a sign that she was meant to be for us. We took a chance, brought the puppy home and chaos ensued.
My worst fear came to life at the health check on the first day. They actually x-rayed her with a specific type of radiograph that could be used safely on young puppies. Vet said, this is abnormal and there will be lots of problems down the road; but there’s a 50/50 chance she could outgrow if you put in lots of work rehabbing her legs to make them strong. Well, I can’t exactly devote a ton of my time to that and there’s no guarantee. The problem is her hips. Hip replacement is our worst case scenario... could be 2 months, 2 years or 15 years from now. No way to tell. We love her. I’m heart-broken, I’ve been physically ill over all of this. We should have walked away and I have so much remorse over it that I’m physically ill and vomiting. Vet recommended we return the to breeder, breeder says she’ll offer full refund. What the hell do I do? My kids will be devastated. I’m devastated. I can’t believe I made such an awful decision and put my family in this position. The only thing holding me back from sending her back to the breeder is my kids. They adore her, they have no clue anything is wrong with her but cried bc she had to go to the vet. I feel like the world’s biggest idiot.
I all of the sudden really do not want this puppy and honestly I don’t feel a lot of love for it now. It’s not because it’s not “perfect” but I feel like she’s a ticking time bomb who will financially drain us and she’s a constant reminder that I made a terrible decision. But when we initially passed on her I was crushed. Is this just the puppy blues? I have never felt like this in my life.
Does anyone have anything they can offer for what they would do in this situation? I’d really love to hear from someone.
Long story short, my husband and I have 3 kids ages 8, 5 & 1. We have been wanting to add a pet to our family for years and did a couple years worth of research on which breed we wanted, waited for the right time for our family. When the quarantine happened, we decided it was a good time to get our 8 week old French bulldog since we are all home to bond and share responsibilities. We paid a sh*t ton of money and in the 11th hour, the breeder let us know there were some hind leg issues with our puppy. Claimed it was from laying on its stomach and nursing so much. Legs were splayed, Took her to their vet for me, vet said the puppy checked out and it would correct itsself with exercise that it wasn’t getting at the breeder’s. I still had reservations. Obviously we were heart-broken. Asked for videos, sent those videos to a couple of different vets. Vets said for us walk away and that it looked like she at one point had “swimmer puppy syndrome.” We walked away. A few days later, the breeder messages us and said she had been working with her all weekend and she improved a ton. Her legs were under her versus out to the side and she was out running around in the videos. Sent the videos to the vet, they said puppy looked fine, no guarantees. I felt like it was a sign that she was meant to be for us. We took a chance, brought the puppy home and chaos ensued.
My worst fear came to life at the health check on the first day. They actually x-rayed her with a specific type of radiograph that could be used safely on young puppies. Vet said, this is abnormal and there will be lots of problems down the road; but there’s a 50/50 chance she could outgrow if you put in lots of work rehabbing her legs to make them strong. Well, I can’t exactly devote a ton of my time to that and there’s no guarantee. The problem is her hips. Hip replacement is our worst case scenario... could be 2 months, 2 years or 15 years from now. No way to tell. We love her. I’m heart-broken, I’ve been physically ill over all of this. We should have walked away and I have so much remorse over it that I’m physically ill and vomiting. Vet recommended we return the to breeder, breeder says she’ll offer full refund. What the hell do I do? My kids will be devastated. I’m devastated. I can’t believe I made such an awful decision and put my family in this position. The only thing holding me back from sending her back to the breeder is my kids. They adore her, they have no clue anything is wrong with her but cried bc she had to go to the vet. I feel like the world’s biggest idiot.
I all of the sudden really do not want this puppy and honestly I don’t feel a lot of love for it now. It’s not because it’s not “perfect” but I feel like she’s a ticking time bomb who will financially drain us and she’s a constant reminder that I made a terrible decision. But when we initially passed on her I was crushed. Is this just the puppy blues? I have never felt like this in my life.
Does anyone have anything they can offer for what they would do in this situation? I’d really love to hear from someone.