[ilovechamp]

so i called my fiance to check on Champ... and he says to me... i was thinking and well youre too over protective of him! You have kids and you need to realize that... ok some back ground info for you they are not my kids they are his kids... technically yeah theyre my step kids but not mine!! so what does that even mean?? over protective of Champ?? yeah the kids play with him... pet him and walk him but im not gonna let them pick him up and carry him around as they please... im so upset with what he said i had to get it out! thanks for listening... or should i say reading..

 

[RonE]

I read it, but I have no idea what you said.

 

[skelaki]

I'm glad you walked out to hopefully calm down. If you're going to marry someone who has kids and they live with you even part time then you need to treat them pretty much as if they were your kids, with one big exception, discipline needs to be the primary duty of the actual parent (your fiance). No child should ever be made to feel less than welcome in any home he/she has to live in.

Now, that said, your dog also has the right to a safe, comfortable environment and it is your fiance's responsibility to be a part of making the home that way. I don't know how old the kids are but even very young children can learn how to treat an animal properly and can, under close supervision, be a part of the care and training of a pet. This not only teaches them responsibility, it could very easily keep them from becoming a dog bite statistic. So, why not sit down calmly with your fiance and the children and set some reasonable and enforceable rules regarding Champ, rules agreed upon and to be enforced by both you and your fiance.

Also, when you calm down, ask your fiance why he said what he did? And listen to what he has to say without interrupting even if you disagree and even if it's petty. It may not be. He might possibly have some legitimate concerns. Maybe not, but listening never hurts although it might feel like it does at times. LOL

 

[wvasko]

Well technically they're not your step-kids and the general trend nowadays is the program of having a extended fiancee 5 to 10 years or into infinity. Is this even about the dog as I have no idea about the term overprotective. Has your dog been hurt by the kids. I do agree with the treating kids as if they are your own but until the big step has been taken I think fiancee is reaching a tad with the "you have kids" remark.

 

[RottieMomx3]

Ok, are you saying that your fiance said you are always more concerned about the dog than the kids????????? Do the kids do things that are not ok in your book to the dog??? Sounds like there is more to this problem that a dog and a few kids???

I do agree with the treating kids as if they are your own but until the big step has been taken I think fiancee is reaching a tad with the "you have kids" remark.

I agree with this also.

 

[Sammgirl]

Maybe he wishes you would take more of an interest in the kids. You're paying too much attention to the puppy in his eyes, and not enough attention to the kids. Maybe he wishes you had called instead to check on the kids. Who knows?

Seems like he's assuming an awful lot, to me. I think at that point, I would have told him to back up. The rin

I can say that for me personally, give me a puppy any day over a kid.

Perhaps you feel like the puppy is more "your" kid then the human children are. *shrugs*

I don't like kids for the most part, so that's about all I've got, LOL

 

[ilovechamp]

i agree kids should be as my own and when they are there i try my best to do that... but i think theres some animosity that comes with that... anyway... i agree with you Sammigirl ill choose a puppy over a kid anyday! LOL crazy since im engaged to a guy with 3 kids! and yes my Champ feels like my little baby more than his kids are i think its that way since i had Champ way before we were even together and as far as the discipline goes i leave that to him although sometimes i feel like the kids dont listen to anything i have to say which makes me irritated! so yes that needs to be changed...

Ok, are you saying that your fiance said you are always more concerned about the dog than the kids?????????

that i really dont know... but i can say that has come up with my fiance not exactly toward the kids though and maybe there is something underneath all this we just havent opened our eyes too... i guess well find out one day