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I completely understand.

I've loved newfs my whole life. I was that kid who had to pet every single one she saw when I was 8 (that, honestly, hasn't changed LOL). It's look and personality for me, it doesn't help that every owner tells me what wonderful family dogs they are, and the breed always shows up in the top matches when I do those 'breed selector' quizzes.

But my first dog wasn't a newf (I didn't know much about breeders and good breeders and puppy mills at the time). My second dog was a rescue because I couldn't spend too much money on a dog. Then later year (13 years later) I looked at newfs too... but I was impatient, and honestly, none of the breeders I contacted had anything planned for a while (most didn't even reply to me), a couple of them tried to turn me off the breed (but they're expensive to take care of, they don't like hiking etc). So I went the rescue route again and got a puppy there. Love her to death even if she absolutely NOT what I was looking for (she's very leash-reactive so it's very hard to walk her, and she scares all our guests by barking like crazy at them... when a nice, social dog is really what I wanted, lol). But anyway, 1.5 year later, I'm ready to get another dog, and I'm back looking at newfs... the first breeding I was on the list for didn't work, I almost got a 8 month old pup but he got snatched before I got to him, and now I'm on a list again for a breeding that should happen shortly, and really hoping this one will work out AND they will have at least 3 males (I'm 3rd for a male). I actually put a deposit this time. But with everything that's gone wrong so far, I'm still not sure it's actually going to work out (but I suppose that as long as I'm patient, I'll get one.. eventually).

The dilemma for us really is that EVERYONE is trying to convince me not to get one... they're big, they drool, they shed a lot, they love water (it's a bit hard to find places to make dogs swim in central NJ, and most beaches are not dog-friendly)... and as much as I love puppies, they're exhausting, and my 18 month old can finally be let in the house alone and let me sleep in until 8am, so that's why I was hoping for that 8 month old to work out... So I was considering an adult rescue, too... which seemed like a much easier/faster option (rescues are a pain, but most adults don't have so many people interested in them)... but then I had to consider how to introduce and adult dog to my dogs (especially my leash reactive 18 month old) and puppies are just easier to introduce to adult dogs...

My point though is that you'll ALWAYS come back to your first choice. Always. But, unless you're 60+ or something, chances are that you'll get other opportunities to get a dog too (I mean, this is going to be our 3rd dog, but our first dog is 14 and it's pretty obvious that he's not going to be around forever). I mean, I don't regret one instant getting my last dog... I wouldn't trade her for anything! But I still want a newf. So really, you could get the second breed you're looking at, and get the next opportunity to get the other one too (in 3 years or whatever). Obviously, that's if it's even possible for you to get two dogs. But why not? I mean, it's easier to wait when you already have a dog, honestly (I'm going to enjoy those few months with just my two).

That being said, I wouldn't worry too much about what OTHERS will say. I do agree with the others that people are more likely to compliment you on a well behaved dog than one that barks at them (like mine... even though she's very original looking and GORGEOUS). And to be honest, as long as a dog is cute, personally, I don't care how common they are, I WILL fuss all over them.

But keep looking. I'm sure you are, but the breeder I just put a deposit on, I didn't even know of 2 years ago. So it's worth looking around more, expanding your search area in case they are willing to ship as well.
 

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The big issues is that if I am offered a puppy by rhis one prestigious breeder, and that’s a BIG if, and I pass it up because I got another dog, I probably will never get back on her list. Because her dogs are so in demand and she gets so many inquiries, it’s not possible to soeak with her to see if I’m even going to be considered.
Are you on the list or not? If you can't even get an answer to that question, frankly, I'd just move on, because you're waiting for nothing.

And standard poodles are cool. My brother in law has one. Great dog. I really don't see why you care so much about what people think about your dog. They don't care.

I will tell you that if you're looking at things like POrtugese Water Dogs or Curly Coated Retrievers, everyone I know who has one gripes a lot about them being mistaken for a-) doodles and b-) Poodles, anyway :p I do prefer the PWD, though. Less bounce.
Everything's a 'doodle' nowadays, lol.
 

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I have friends with PWDs and they are awesome and every last one of them is an inch from exploding if someone asks if their dog is a poodle or labradoodle again. I mean good naturedly but the frustration is real. The general public REALLY cannot tell the difference. And does not care, to be honest.
Yeah they don't, lol. Heck I have a mutt and everyone still thinks she's an Aussie or a border collie, at this point I just ignore it (we did a DNA test and she has no herding dog in her at all).

I didn't know about Lagotti - beautiful dogs. Would totally have confused them with a doodle of some sort too.

Anyway, I agree, getting hung up on one breeder that can't even tell you if you have a chance of being considered for a puppy is not a good thing. Go to dog shows, contact all the breed clubs in the US, get out there to see if there's another opportunity somewhere. And yes, I don't think I've ever met anyone who wish they hadn't got their dog, even if it wasn't the breed they really wanted in the first place... but most people I know don't get dogs they don't feel a bond to either.
 

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Lagotto is the other breed for me as well. I have met some of them as well as Poodles. I have owned dogs before. For a Lagotto, I have a lot of special criteria, so getting a dog from a particular breeder for me is very important. There are a handful of breeders from which I’d actually get one of these dogs and have had bad experiences with quite a few already, which is why I feel this way. There are huge waiting lists for these dogs everywhere but they require a lot of commitment from dedicated breeders to produce stable puppies. So, that’s why if I had a chance to get a puppy from this one breeder, I couldn’t pass it up. However, I can assume that with the number of inquiries she gets, that would be a slim chance.
That's the thing I don't get... is it really that hard from those breeders to put you on the list and give you an idea of how many people are ahead of you or when they are planning to breed again?

Honestly though, I can imagine that a lot of people would indeed just nod politely thinking that you got ripped off if you say it's a rare breed and not a doodle... lol. Which really isn't a huge deal, but if you care about what people think, you might end up pretty disappointed. Although yeah, they do look better than the average poorly bred doodle.
 

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I'm saying this in the best way possible, but have you considered therapy? You shouldn't feel that the dog you have define you as a person, or care that much about what others think of you.
 
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