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I have a 3.5 month old shepherd, and I've had really bad puppy blues since day 1. I’m just having a hard time bonding with her and fully seeing her as mine - I always feel one foot in the door, one foot out. I’ve been crying every single day since I got her, definitely lost weight, and wakeup every morning almost regretting my decision - Which I hate myself for doing. In the beginning I thought it was because it was hard crate training her, but the more I get to know her, I think the reason why is that I was originally going to get a golden retriever pup, but I couldn’t find any good breeders I trusted at the time, so I ended up with a german shepherd - I know, completely different breeds.
I fostered a german shepherd a couple years back and he was super skittish and anxious and that helped me decide the best fit for me would be a more social/easy-going dog.
My pup is sweet, she's pretty social (for a shepherd), independent, so she is that typical-standard shepherd. I already met with a personal trainer, who helped evaluate her and said she’s social, already very protective, alert, indifferent to people, and would be a great guard dog, and would be great at bite work (if that was what I wanted to do).
So for me, it’s not about the hard work (potty training, having to come home early, the attention, etc - I actually love taking care of her and training her, I love having to come home early to take her out etc). I just don’t feel like she’s the dog for me, no matter how many people tell me she’s a really sweet/smart/perfect dog and that she’ll grow up to be great. I want to either be fully committed/love her COMPLETELY or make a decision to give her back to the breeder (which I keep telling myself won’t be the WORST thing in the world. I really love the breeder, she’s so communicative and I know she tried really hard to pair me with the right pup, so I absolutely and completely trust her to find her another loving home, if it ever came to that). It’s to the point where, when I see other Goldens, my heart sinks and hurts a little. I don’t want to be that kind of owner to my pup. I know that physically I'm doing my very best to raise her in the best environment and socializing her, but want her to be with someone who will be fully committed, mentally and physically.
I'm rambling at this point, but please refrain from any mean comments - I'm already hard on my self as it is.
I fostered a german shepherd a couple years back and he was super skittish and anxious and that helped me decide the best fit for me would be a more social/easy-going dog.
My pup is sweet, she's pretty social (for a shepherd), independent, so she is that typical-standard shepherd. I already met with a personal trainer, who helped evaluate her and said she’s social, already very protective, alert, indifferent to people, and would be a great guard dog, and would be great at bite work (if that was what I wanted to do).
So for me, it’s not about the hard work (potty training, having to come home early, the attention, etc - I actually love taking care of her and training her, I love having to come home early to take her out etc). I just don’t feel like she’s the dog for me, no matter how many people tell me she’s a really sweet/smart/perfect dog and that she’ll grow up to be great. I want to either be fully committed/love her COMPLETELY or make a decision to give her back to the breeder (which I keep telling myself won’t be the WORST thing in the world. I really love the breeder, she’s so communicative and I know she tried really hard to pair me with the right pup, so I absolutely and completely trust her to find her another loving home, if it ever came to that). It’s to the point where, when I see other Goldens, my heart sinks and hurts a little. I don’t want to be that kind of owner to my pup. I know that physically I'm doing my very best to raise her in the best environment and socializing her, but want her to be with someone who will be fully committed, mentally and physically.
I'm rambling at this point, but please refrain from any mean comments - I'm already hard on my self as it is.