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Hello, I'm new to the forums. I came looking for some advice about this.
My partner and I adopted a shelter dog 3 months ago that was estimated to be around 6-8 months old. Before the adoption, my partner agreed to positive reinforcement and clicker training. We even watched a bunch of videos and later signed up for zoom training from a highly regarded trainer.
However, we have both not been consistent with the training or reinforcement throughout the day. I always basically have to throw the clicker at them to use it, but that's only when taking the dog outside. My partner is very quick to yell "NO" instead of figuring out a solution, putting the dog outside on the aerial tether if she whines to go out (instead of on the leash, seeing if she goes potty, and then coming back in so she doesn't continue whine to go out whenever), and stuff like that.
Now they keep saying that "positive reinforcement training doesn't work" for our dog and that we will need to use discipline to get her to learn "no". They are expecting a quick stop to the "problem" behaviors. They insist we don't have the time or energy, as two mentally ill people, to do positive training. I disagree. It is worse on my mental health to have to fight this. I'm getting tired. I feel as though I will need to just keep the dog tethered to me and do all training alone.
Our dog is a cat chaser and we have 2 indoor cats. The place isn't big enough to keep them separate. I've found that she's better around the cats when my partner isn't home and I keep a chill attitude about it, most of the time. If she can't be chill, I separate them or find a better distraction.
I'm just at a loss. I don't want this disagreement to come between us but I absolutely do not want to discipline our dog because I don't see any reputable research about that. I do not wish to hear reasons why it's okay to discipline, unless you have reputable science-backed research to support you.
Thank you in advance for reading all this.
tl;dr my partner agreed to positive reinforcement training, but won't give it a try for more than a couple days at a time maybe at most, and then claims it doesn't work. I've tried citing reputable sources and it doesn't work. I'm a research evidence-based person and they are a word-of-mouth "my friend said" person, even if those friends dogs are not well trained.
My partner and I adopted a shelter dog 3 months ago that was estimated to be around 6-8 months old. Before the adoption, my partner agreed to positive reinforcement and clicker training. We even watched a bunch of videos and later signed up for zoom training from a highly regarded trainer.
However, we have both not been consistent with the training or reinforcement throughout the day. I always basically have to throw the clicker at them to use it, but that's only when taking the dog outside. My partner is very quick to yell "NO" instead of figuring out a solution, putting the dog outside on the aerial tether if she whines to go out (instead of on the leash, seeing if she goes potty, and then coming back in so she doesn't continue whine to go out whenever), and stuff like that.
Now they keep saying that "positive reinforcement training doesn't work" for our dog and that we will need to use discipline to get her to learn "no". They are expecting a quick stop to the "problem" behaviors. They insist we don't have the time or energy, as two mentally ill people, to do positive training. I disagree. It is worse on my mental health to have to fight this. I'm getting tired. I feel as though I will need to just keep the dog tethered to me and do all training alone.
Our dog is a cat chaser and we have 2 indoor cats. The place isn't big enough to keep them separate. I've found that she's better around the cats when my partner isn't home and I keep a chill attitude about it, most of the time. If she can't be chill, I separate them or find a better distraction.
I'm just at a loss. I don't want this disagreement to come between us but I absolutely do not want to discipline our dog because I don't see any reputable research about that. I do not wish to hear reasons why it's okay to discipline, unless you have reputable science-backed research to support you.
Thank you in advance for reading all this.
tl;dr my partner agreed to positive reinforcement training, but won't give it a try for more than a couple days at a time maybe at most, and then claims it doesn't work. I've tried citing reputable sources and it doesn't work. I'm a research evidence-based person and they are a word-of-mouth "my friend said" person, even if those friends dogs are not well trained.