Hi. I own a 5.5lbs 4yo male (neutered) Pomeranian who we bought as a puppy. He is very friendly towards people, but is a bit suspicious towards new faces, he is very happy and wiggly when he sees new person but he keeps a distance until he meets that person well. He is very bonded to me and my wife, he follows us everywhere and wants all the attention. He was resource guarder at the beginning and was showing signs of aggression but we fixed it, now he only shows aggression when he is ill or something bothers him (such as dirty bum). He is cuddly and loves to hug or sleep on lap but to some point until he feels overwhelmed, a lot is going on his rules. He was never friendly to other dogs, when we tried to socialize him, he was always running away from that dog and asking for help from any human that was near him. On a walk he never barks, he is always ignoring any type of animals. He is a wonderful family dog with endless energy.
Now, moving to the point. A friend of ours passed away few months ago, she had a miniature 8lbs 1yo female (spayed) Poodle which her family gave to their friends. We got a phone call 4 days ago from those people who said that they cannot keep her due to having two of their own dogs and cannot give her the time she needs. We agreed to take her to our home the same day we received the call.
The Poodle is different than our dog, she is extremely friendly towards people and other animals. She is very open to new people and lets people to anything with her. She is not afraid of new thing as new places. Although she is calm at the same time. I would say that she is a perfect dog for anyone.
The dogs met at parents house. Poodle wanted to play with my Pom from the start, it ended up with her chasing him all over the house and with the Pom hiding behind us or our heads. When she noticed that he does not want to play with her, she kind of ignored him. When she was sleeping on the couch, he was jumping to her, while growling and trying to touch her with his paw. She was ready to play right away but it ended up as previously. Now the dogs are in our house. At night, Poodle is sleeping locked in the crate and our Pom is sleeping in the crate on the other side of the bed but his crate is unlocked. He basically ignores her and keeps a distance the whole time. They do not interact with each other at all. Our Pomeranian seems depressed, he does not have any energy in himself, he does not greet family members with the enthusiast he previously has and he lays in different areas than he normally would. Poodle is already acclimated with us and the new home, she seems very happy and cheerful. Although Pom is potty trained, we take them to shopping with us and on a long walk few times a day, they are keeping the "social distance" on a walk the whole time. He hates when she is behind him and usually waits until she goes first. We are trying to show more attention to the old dog and give him the priority in everything so that he doesnt feel rejected. I work from home so I can keep an eye on the dogs 24h. When I work, they lay down and sleep in the office right away, Pom is sleeping near my feet and the Poodle sleeps on a pillow (which my Pom usually used to sleep on)
We are struggling with making the decision if we should keep her or give her to our parents are ready to take her anytime. They were going to keep her in the first place but we wanted our dog to have a companion. It does not seem to work out, we feel very bad with our Pom being depressed and we also feel sad about the new dog that we cannot show her all the love that we are starting to feel for her. If we are going to give her to our parents, I think its the to do it as soon as possible since she already starts to get bonded to us. We are taking her to the parents house every day so that that she gets familiarized.I am just concerned about my old dog being depressed. I am afraid that keeping the could cause long term behavioral/mental or trauma problems in my old dog?
What would you suggest? Would it be better to give her to our parents, where she would have wonderful living conditions and lots of love, or should we keep trying to assimilate the dogs?
Do you know of any ways to help our old dog with the process?
Now, moving to the point. A friend of ours passed away few months ago, she had a miniature 8lbs 1yo female (spayed) Poodle which her family gave to their friends. We got a phone call 4 days ago from those people who said that they cannot keep her due to having two of their own dogs and cannot give her the time she needs. We agreed to take her to our home the same day we received the call.
The Poodle is different than our dog, she is extremely friendly towards people and other animals. She is very open to new people and lets people to anything with her. She is not afraid of new thing as new places. Although she is calm at the same time. I would say that she is a perfect dog for anyone.
The dogs met at parents house. Poodle wanted to play with my Pom from the start, it ended up with her chasing him all over the house and with the Pom hiding behind us or our heads. When she noticed that he does not want to play with her, she kind of ignored him. When she was sleeping on the couch, he was jumping to her, while growling and trying to touch her with his paw. She was ready to play right away but it ended up as previously. Now the dogs are in our house. At night, Poodle is sleeping locked in the crate and our Pom is sleeping in the crate on the other side of the bed but his crate is unlocked. He basically ignores her and keeps a distance the whole time. They do not interact with each other at all. Our Pomeranian seems depressed, he does not have any energy in himself, he does not greet family members with the enthusiast he previously has and he lays in different areas than he normally would. Poodle is already acclimated with us and the new home, she seems very happy and cheerful. Although Pom is potty trained, we take them to shopping with us and on a long walk few times a day, they are keeping the "social distance" on a walk the whole time. He hates when she is behind him and usually waits until she goes first. We are trying to show more attention to the old dog and give him the priority in everything so that he doesnt feel rejected. I work from home so I can keep an eye on the dogs 24h. When I work, they lay down and sleep in the office right away, Pom is sleeping near my feet and the Poodle sleeps on a pillow (which my Pom usually used to sleep on)
We are struggling with making the decision if we should keep her or give her to our parents are ready to take her anytime. They were going to keep her in the first place but we wanted our dog to have a companion. It does not seem to work out, we feel very bad with our Pom being depressed and we also feel sad about the new dog that we cannot show her all the love that we are starting to feel for her. If we are going to give her to our parents, I think its the to do it as soon as possible since she already starts to get bonded to us. We are taking her to the parents house every day so that that she gets familiarized.I am just concerned about my old dog being depressed. I am afraid that keeping the could cause long term behavioral/mental or trauma problems in my old dog?
What would you suggest? Would it be better to give her to our parents, where she would have wonderful living conditions and lots of love, or should we keep trying to assimilate the dogs?
Do you know of any ways to help our old dog with the process?
