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So my in-laws flew in for few days to visit us. My husband and I thought this would be a great experience for our dog to experience having vistors to the house, since she's only had to experience it once. My in-laws have 2 dogs of their own so they were willing to put up with her. Vada is pretty fearful and dislikes meeting new people. Now its the last day of their visit and I could not be any more peeved with them...
The first day was a little rough and Vada barked and barked forever. My in-laws did what we had said and they understood and ignored the whole time til she simmered downed. She finally did stop barking and just paced back and forth. My husband showed his parents around the house and Vada followed us around, but not close. My father-in-law ended up cornering our dog in a room up stairs by chance. She knows she is not suppossed to be in the room, but my father wouldn't let her out so she peed herself and made a dash and soon after pooed downstairs. Then to make things a little worse, the in-laws stopped just ignoring her. They kept staring her down and trying to talk or make noises at her. Finally that day ended and Vada pulled herself together.
The second day they came over, Vada only barked a little bit. She tried sniffing them and getting closer and even let them touch her a little, but she was still pretty high strung. All was going well until...my mother-in-law was sitting on the floor in the living room trying to get Vada to play. Vada was trying to get past her towards the backdoor, but she was too afraid, especially since my mother kept smacking the floor. Vada ran upstairs and had another accident. All calmed down again for a bit and was sitting on the couch next to my father-in-law and Vada was sitting next to me. He would reach over and poke her a bit. Then he suddenly puts his face right in hers and scares the life out her! She growled made a lunge for him and ran into the kitchen and hid under a desk. What he did was completely unnecessary, but he kept on and on how she'll be fine and will get over it.
So today my husband was sitting ton the couch and Vada was next to him in the corner. His mother reaches out towards her and Vada scoots into the corner. She starts shaking and can't find a way to run away so she growls at his mom. So what does she do? His mom smacks our dog across the nose and it was a fairly hard hit. You could hear the connection between her hand and Vadas nose. So VAda starts growling more and my husband tell his mom that she shouldn't have done that and we can get her to stop on our own. So all his parents have to say is how she needs to be put in her place for growling at them. Their idea is to smack her or hold her to the floor so that she doesn't start thinking she's dominant...I've been irritated all day.
Apparently Vada, who is fearful and timid, isn't trained well enough and thinks she's in charge of things. We obviously should hit her more so she understands. Nevermind the fact they have been staring her down and tormenting her for 3 days now. They have no right to put their hands on our dog like. My husbands mother undid all the progress Vada had made the past few days. Now Vada won't go near her. They seem to think since they watch dog shows and raised their dogs that way that its ok. Vada hasn't eaten much and had been pretty exhausted by their visit.
I'm sorry for the long rant, but this isn't even half of the things they have done with our dog that is driving me insane. I'm just glad they leave tomorrow morning.
Does anyone else suffer with family that doesn't think you can take care of your own dog?
The first day was a little rough and Vada barked and barked forever. My in-laws did what we had said and they understood and ignored the whole time til she simmered downed. She finally did stop barking and just paced back and forth. My husband showed his parents around the house and Vada followed us around, but not close. My father-in-law ended up cornering our dog in a room up stairs by chance. She knows she is not suppossed to be in the room, but my father wouldn't let her out so she peed herself and made a dash and soon after pooed downstairs. Then to make things a little worse, the in-laws stopped just ignoring her. They kept staring her down and trying to talk or make noises at her. Finally that day ended and Vada pulled herself together.
The second day they came over, Vada only barked a little bit. She tried sniffing them and getting closer and even let them touch her a little, but she was still pretty high strung. All was going well until...my mother-in-law was sitting on the floor in the living room trying to get Vada to play. Vada was trying to get past her towards the backdoor, but she was too afraid, especially since my mother kept smacking the floor. Vada ran upstairs and had another accident. All calmed down again for a bit and was sitting on the couch next to my father-in-law and Vada was sitting next to me. He would reach over and poke her a bit. Then he suddenly puts his face right in hers and scares the life out her! She growled made a lunge for him and ran into the kitchen and hid under a desk. What he did was completely unnecessary, but he kept on and on how she'll be fine and will get over it.
So today my husband was sitting ton the couch and Vada was next to him in the corner. His mother reaches out towards her and Vada scoots into the corner. She starts shaking and can't find a way to run away so she growls at his mom. So what does she do? His mom smacks our dog across the nose and it was a fairly hard hit. You could hear the connection between her hand and Vadas nose. So VAda starts growling more and my husband tell his mom that she shouldn't have done that and we can get her to stop on our own. So all his parents have to say is how she needs to be put in her place for growling at them. Their idea is to smack her or hold her to the floor so that she doesn't start thinking she's dominant...I've been irritated all day.
Apparently Vada, who is fearful and timid, isn't trained well enough and thinks she's in charge of things. We obviously should hit her more so she understands. Nevermind the fact they have been staring her down and tormenting her for 3 days now. They have no right to put their hands on our dog like. My husbands mother undid all the progress Vada had made the past few days. Now Vada won't go near her. They seem to think since they watch dog shows and raised their dogs that way that its ok. Vada hasn't eaten much and had been pretty exhausted by their visit.
I'm sorry for the long rant, but this isn't even half of the things they have done with our dog that is driving me insane. I'm just glad they leave tomorrow morning.
Does anyone else suffer with family that doesn't think you can take care of your own dog?
