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My hubby and I adopted a dog 3 months ago and he has been great. All of a sudden he will not take treats from me and will not respond to me. He will push past me to get to my hubby and if I try and give him affection he will walk away and go to my hubby. I have in no way abused or mistreated him. I am the one that feeds him in the morning and night. I am home with him all day while the hubby is at work. He will act despressed all day and only want to play or be happy when the hubby is home.

I don't know why this is goin on has anyone that delt with rescues delt with this?

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Some dogs are like that. I do all of the feeding, training, grooming and exercise for our two dogs but, our female Sheltie just wants to hang out with my wife. Sometimes she will come and lay near me (the dog....not my wife) while I'm on the computer, or solicit attention but, not often.
What can't be ignored is not responding to commands. If you're giving direction to the dog Hubby cannot 'interfere' by allowing the dog to come to him. He must ignore the dog completely...no attention...he can't even look at the dog or talk to the dog. That's a two way street...you can't interfere when he's directing. Sometimes, husbands and wives try to double team the dog....both telling the dog to do something....the dog then gets to pick who he's going to listen to......Not a good pattern to set.
 

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Some dogs are like that. I do all of the feeding, training, grooming and exercise for our two dogs but, our female Sheltie just wants to hang out with my wife. Sometimes she will come and lay near me (the dog....not my wife) while I'm on the computer, or solicit attention but, not often.
What can't be ignored is not responding to commands. If you're giving direction to the dog Hubby cannot 'interfere' by allowing the dog to come to him. He must ignore the dog completely...no attention...he can't even look at the dog or talk to the dog. That's a two way street...you can't interfere when he's directing. Sometimes, husbands and wives try to double team the dog....both telling the dog to do something....the dog then gets to pick who he's going to listen to......Not a good pattern to set.
Yes the hubby will give no eye contact no affection we try really hard at not doing that double team cause it;s easy to fall into lol. I can see whatyou are saying about that and it makes sence.

we will always keep trying and working. The hubby thinks hes (the dog) being emotional and will get over it.

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You're doing the right things....excellent! Hubby should be prepared for that emotional attachment whether he wants it or not....you may have to be ready for less.
Some breeds, like our Shelties, are pretty much 1 person dogs and the bonds can be quite strong.
 

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You're doing the right things....excellent! Hubby should be prepared for that emotional attachment whether he wants it or not....you may have to be ready for less.
Some breeds, like our Shelties, are pretty much 1 person dogs and the bonds can be quite strong.
He is fine with it. Just a bit ago the dog pushed me over and I landed on the floor. He got inbetween me and the hubby and took his body and pushed. It's so funny. Hubby is ready for the love but feels bad for me :) Not sure if I'm ready for no love :(
 

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15 years ago I had a puppy who wasn't exactly loving/affectionate towards me... what helped was what I now call "kissing therapy"... spending a few minutes every day cuddling and kissing those furry cheeks. After a while a dog just can't resist and starts giving love back! (I'm not a dog trainer so there may be some reason I don't know of that this is horribly awful to do, but it worked great for me re: bonding!)
 

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15 years ago I had a puppy who wasn't exactly loving/affectionate towards me... what helped was what I now call "kissing therapy"... spending a few minutes every day cuddling and kissing those furry cheeks. After a while a dog just can't resist and starts giving love back! (I'm not a dog trainer so there may be some reason I don't know of that this is horribly awful to do, but it worked great for me re: bonding!)
Aww that's a horrible thing to do to a dog hehehehe...
 

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my lab/collie does that ..... loves hubby more ....and i was the one who trained the dog ..... i think they bond different with people and tones of voices .... and it dosen't help that the kids egg the dog on with 'daddy's home' in high pitch and hypes up the dog whenever my husband comes home
 

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my lab/collie does that ..... loves hubby more ....and i was the one who trained the dog ..... i think they bond different with people and tones of voices .... and it dosen't help that the kids egg the dog on with 'daddy's home' in high pitch and hypes up the dog whenever my husband comes home
Gee thanks for rubbin it in kids lol. Just bums me out!! time for me to be a spoiled rotten lil girl.
 
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