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So I’m just writing a rant here to get something off my chest. I have a shihtzu puppy that my family loves. When we were looking to get a dog we decided we wanted a small, non shedding, hypoallergenic dog. We found many different breeds that met our needs but we fell in love with the little shihtzu in a pet store. Before people jump down my throat I know, it’s not ideal to buy from a pet store but it was meant to be with her.
My husbands family has a huge 85 pound rescue. She’s cute as a button. His mother is a big dog person. I personally am a small dog person. So right off the bat even discussing getting a dog I heard all kinds of comments about “don’t get a dog too small why would you want that?”
Anyway. We bring our dog home. My son was in heaven. Never seen him so happy. My in laws come to visit. Everyone says hello to the dog except my mother in law. We’ve had our dog for 3 months, any time my mother In law comes over or we bring the dog to their house she does not say hello to my dog. Every time we bring up my dog in conversation she does nothing but make nasty comments about how we bought our dog and should have adopted.
Last night we went over my in laws house for a birthday party. One of women there was asking me about my dog because she too is looking for a similar dog to mine. Right in the middle of the conversation my mother in law screaming to the whole room “DONT BUY A DOG!!!! NO ONE SHOULD BUY DOGS! THERE ARE SO MANY DOGS IN THE WORLD WHO NEED HOMES THAT EVERYONE SHOULD ADOPT THEM.... looks right at me ... sorry”
I almost got my shit and left the house.
Is it me or was she blatantly calling me out in front of the whole room? Saying that when everyone in the room damn well knows I bought my dog felt like she was trying to single me out. Like my dog didn’t deserve a home because she happened to be in a pet store cage instead of a shelter cage.
 

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Why, in the world, are you continuing to take your dog to events with these people and open the door and invite this nonsense in?

She's your dog. You have her. You love her.

She is not your MIL's dog. She doesn't have to like her, or where she came from. Calling you out was rude,snide remarks about your dog's size are rude, but there is no reason for your dog to be at her house, and no reason she has to greet your dog or like her.
 

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She also doesn't have to stay silent about not wanting anyone else to get a dog from a PetStore. Or even a breeder. I mean, I'm with you, but if this is going on in her house, she shouldn't be a jerk to you but she is absolutely entitled to say what she thinks about the subject.

Life is short. Her opinion of what you do with yours should not be a thing you come to conflict about.Do what you want with your life and let her do the same. Stop bringing your dog around and putting yourself into these positions. If it's not worth never seeing her again to you, and it's not worth continued conflict. Just...leave the dog at home and don't discuss it.
 

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Agree with the Captn.

Just leave your dog at home. Or when they visit, simply place your dog in it's safe space.

If it were me and MIL began that s**t in my home, I would ask her to leave. Politely at first, then more firmly as she resisted. If she pulled that in her home, then I would simply leave and not return. Let hubby and kids visit in-laws, you and pup take a long walk or dog park.

Life is too short to put up with someone's BS in your home or about your choices.
 
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