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I put my dog down, and now I have guilt thinking I made the wrong decision.

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A few days ago my dog began coughing and struggling to catch her breathe. It seemed to only get worse as time went on. Saturday we took her to an emergency vet, where we discovered through x-rays she had a heart murmur. Because of these issues she also had fluid in her lungs. She is a Papillon, I got her when she was 9 or 10 and had her for 5 years. They had her on oxygen, and the doctor said she would have to stay over night to get her oxygen levels back to where they need to be. They gave us the option of attempting to treat this terminal disease. With that being said, our options were to pay nearly $1000 to keep her overnight, and then attempt to try different treatments and see how she is able to react to the medication. He said on average, he sees dogs make it about 6 months on this treatment plan with constant checkups and changes to her medication. While he has also seen times where they last 2 weeks. He mentioned very rarely does a dog in this position make it a year or longer. I felt that the best choice was to stop her suffering, but I cant help but think I made the wrong decision. What if she was one of the rare cases that would have lasted another two years? This is the first time I have ever had to make this decision with a pet. She was my best friend and up until this last week she seemed to be in good spirits, though I know dogs are good at hiding their pain. I was surprised to get this news. Does any one have any opinions or experience in the matter?

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In my experience and opinion, it is of no benefit to second guess this decision.

The dog was in declining health without a good prognosis and an elderly dog.

Frankly, I think you made a wise and sound decision for the dog's comfort
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In my experience and opinion, it is of no benefit to second guess this decision.

The dog was in declining health without a good prognosis and an elderly dog.

Frankly, I think you made a wise and sound decision for the dog's comfort

Thank you so much for your response. Because of my lack of experience with this it is hard to feel 100% confident in my decision. It means a lot to me that you were willing to take time out of your day to respond.
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Hey, I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through that. Honestly, I think your choice was very selfless and brave. We can't go on living our lives with the 'what ifs'. The truth is your dog was suffering and you chose not to let your dog continue suffering. That is an unshakable truth, however hard the decision must have been to make.
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I have had to make this decision for a lot of dogs (did rescue work for 10 years) and cats and even horses, and I've second guessed myself over all but a couple where there was obvious pain - too soon, not soon enough. What if, what if.... I think it's built into most of us. All we can ever do is our best at the time and tamp down the second guessing as best we can too.
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Something my vet said when we were putting down one of our dogs was that dog's live in the now - they aren't worrying about the future or thinking about the past like we might. If your dog is suffering, they're suffering, and especially with an older dog and terminal illness, it is usually (IMO) kinder to end the suffering early rather than having it drag on. You made a decision that was so hard for you but best for your dog, and that just shows how much you cared about her and were willing to put her first. Even now, you're in pain questioning your decision, but your dog is free from suffering.

I personally think it's better to PTS too early than too late, and I would have likely done the same thing as you in this scenario. I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm thinking of you in this hard time. Try not to beat yourself up or second guess yourself; you did the right thing.
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Because your dog was a older dog, and the prognosis was poor, I think it was best to make the decision you did. She is no longer in pain. I would have made the same decision and I am proud of you for handleing it the way you did, even if it was hard. I hope you're doing ok!
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I'm so sorry. Papillion are prone to heart problems as they age, which can be hard to treat.

It's a decision I've had to make way too many times, and it's always hard to do.
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Sorry to hear what you are going through and your loss.
I think you made the right decision, as tough as it must have been.
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You cant turn back the clock so stop beating yourself up. My BC had early heart failure and lasted a little over 6 months before he decided it was time to give up and I had to let him go.

I can tell you and Ive made this decision more times than I care to remember that it never feels ok, you always feel like the executioner. You always hate yourself and you always wish you had more time.

But this was a decison made with love , you did not want your friend to suffer so you gave her a peaceful and dignified death. You put her first in this and that is a wonderful thing to do.

Remember the love and happy times you shared, know that you put her first when it really mattered.
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Very sorry you had to go through this.
You made the right choice. The thing to remember is life is terminal.. and all we can do is extend it. You gave an older dog a LOT of good years and made a clear and correct decision when the time came. Mourn you loss but please do not do so in guilt.

Many hugs to you.
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Reading your story made me cry.

I agree that you did the loving thing in ending your beloved pet's suffering. As with the other readers that have posted replies, I've had to do this to many of my dogs, each one is a blessing. A friend of mine said to me, "For the time you had that dog, you gave it a wonderful loving life," after I had to put a puppy I had adopted down after only 2 weeks (due to distemper).

Please don't let this experience turn you from adopting another dog in the future when you are ready.

Sending you lots of hope and prayer,
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You did the right thing! Dogs are too wonderful to be allowed to suffer when it's in our power to put an end to it. It's always heart wrenching. Take comfort in knowing you gave her a marvelous life.
A few days ago my dog began coughing and struggling to catch her breathe. It seemed to only get worse as time went on. Saturday we took her to an emergency vet, where we discovered through x-rays she had a heart murmur. Because of these issues she also had fluid in her lungs. She is a Papillon, I got her when she was 9 or 10 and had her for 5 years. They had her on oxygen, and the doctor said she would have to stay over night to get her oxygen levels back to where they need to be. They gave us the option of attempting to treat this terminal disease. With that being said, our options were to pay nearly $1000 to keep her overnight, and then attempt to try different treatments and see how she is able to react to the medication. He said on average, he sees dogs make it about 6 months on this treatment plan with constant checkups and changes to her medication. While he has also seen times where they last 2 weeks. He mentioned very rarely does a dog in this position make it a year or longer. I felt that the best choice was to stop her suffering, but I cant help but think I made the wrong decision. What if she was one of the rare cases that would have lasted another two years? This is the first time I have ever had to make this decision with a pet. She was my best friend and up until this last week she seemed to be in good spirits, though I know dogs are good at hiding their pain. I was surprised to get this news. Does any one have any opinions or experience in the matter?

Thank you in advanced.
You did the right thing! Dogs are too wonderful to be allowed to suffer when it's in our power to put an end to it. It's always heart wrenching. Take comfort in knowing you gave her a marvelous life.
My dog Charlie was a rescue, unsure of his age at the time-maybe 1-2 yrs old. (we decided on 1 based on vet). Mixed breed, husky/Brittany maybe, unsure. By 6 years old, he had developed a heart murmur. By 8 congestive heart failure and vet put on meds, that helped for about a year. Then he started with a cough which grew worse. More meds, but vet made it clear that his time was limited and the meds would only help for a short time. He improved dramatically for the first week, then had another good three months, but with steady decline. The last 4 weeks the cough was worse. He couldn't sleep well (and neither could I). By the final week, neither of were sleeping more than an hour or two. He couldn't breathe laying down. The final morning was after a horrible night. My husband I decided it was time. Of course, being daylight, Charlie seemed somewhat better. That made it hard, I've often wondered if we should have waited, but when I look at his life the last two weeks on this earth, I know it was the right decision. I think it is human nature to second guess ourselves. We want to give them all the time we can. But sometimes, the quality of life just isn't there and you have to let them go. God bless you for giving your pup an easy way out.
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A few days ago my dog began coughing and struggling to catch her breathe. It seemed to only get worse as time went on. Saturday we took her to an emergency vet, where we discovered through x-rays she had a heart murmur. Because of these issues she also had fluid in her lungs. She is a Papillon, I got her when she was 9 or 10 and had her for 5 years. They had her on oxygen, and the doctor said she would have to stay over night to get her oxygen levels back to where they need to be. They gave us the option of attempting to treat this terminal disease. With that being said, our options were to pay nearly $1000 to keep her overnight, and then attempt to try different treatments and see how she is able to react to the medication. He said on average, he sees dogs make it about 6 months on this treatment plan with constant checkups and changes to her medication. While he has also seen times where they last 2 weeks. He mentioned very rarely does a dog in this position make it a year or longer. I felt that the best choice was to stop her suffering, but I cant help but think I made the wrong decision. What if she was one of the rare cases that would have lasted another two years? This is the first time I have ever had to make this decision with a pet. She was my best friend and up until this last week she seemed to be in good spirits, though I know dogs are good at hiding their pain. I was surprised to get this news. Does any one have any opinions or experience in the matter?

Thank you in advanced.
A few days ago my dog began coughing and struggling to catch her breathe. It seemed to only get worse as time went on. Saturday we took her to an emergency vet, where we discovered through x-rays she had a heart murmur. Because of these issues she also had fluid in her lungs. She is a Papillon, I got her when she was 9 or 10 and had her for 5 years. They had her on oxygen, and the doctor said she would have to stay over night to get her oxygen levels back to where they need to be. They gave us the option of attempting to treat this terminal disease. With that being said, our options were to pay nearly $1000 to keep her overnight, and then attempt to try different treatments and see how she is able to react to the medication. He said on average, he sees dogs make it about 6 months on this treatment plan with constant checkups and changes to her medication. While he has also seen times where they last 2 weeks. He mentioned very rarely does a dog in this position make it a year or longer. I felt that the best choice was to stop her suffering, but I cant help but think I made the wrong decision. What if she was one of the rare cases that would have lasted another two years? This is the first time I have ever had to make this decision with a pet. She was my best friend and up until this last week she seemed to be in good spirits, though I know dogs are good at hiding their pain. I was surprised to get this news. Does any one have any opinions or experience in the matter?

Thank you in advanced.





We had to put our almost eleven year old Pomeranian down in November. It was a shock to us. Four days after her diagnosis, we had to make that decision. I have second guessed us also but she was not herself on her last day. Yes, we miss her like crazy. Two weeks from now we should be picking up a new puppy.
A few days ago my dog began coughing and struggling to catch her breathe. It seemed to only get worse as time went on. Saturday we took her to an emergency vet, where we discovered through x-rays she had a heart murmur. Because of these issues she also had fluid in her lungs. She is a Papillon, I got her when she was 9 or 10 and had her for 5 years. They had her on oxygen, and the doctor said she would have to stay over night to get her oxygen levels back to where they need to be. They gave us the option of attempting to treat this terminal disease. With that being said, our options were to pay nearly $1000 to keep her overnight, and then attempt to try different treatments and see how she is able to react to the medication. He said on average, he sees dogs make it about 6 months on this treatment plan with constant checkups and changes to her medication. While he has also seen times where they last 2 weeks. He mentioned very rarely does a dog in this position make it a year or longer. I felt that the best choice was to stop her suffering, but I cant help but think I made the wrong decision. What if she was one of the rare cases that would have lasted another two years? This is the first time I have ever had to make this decision with a pet. She was my best friend and up until this last week she seemed to be in good spirits, though I know dogs are good at hiding their pain. I was surprised to get this news. Does any one have any opinions or experience in the matter?

Thank you in advanced.
I would of brought her home spoilt her & seen how she went then made the decision to put to sleep, then you wouldn't have felt guilty, sounds like she had a good life, keep those memories, go & rescue another golden oldie & give them another chance like you gave your girl a chance..
I am very sorry for your loss. I recently went through putting my dog down, and I suffered the same doubts. Try not to be hard on yourself. Your dog did not have a good prognosis and had you kept her you would have had to still go through the same pain or worse, just a little later, it hurts either way?
You did the great job that you got vet immediately. Hope that it would be solve for your dog.
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