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Hello everyone im new to this sight and need some advice ,


I have a 3 year old female maltese and she is a good dog , so a month ago we bought our second maltese she is now 20 weeks old my older one dont seem to like her too much :( she growls at her almost always and this is what has me scared to death there has been a few dog fights over bones, and greetings at the door , is it normal for a young pup to retaliate when an older one snaps ????and the little one dont understand when the older one growls telling her to leave her alone , what is going on will they ever like each other or should we give away the little one ?????? im scared they will hurt themselves ?????why does the little one not respect the older one who is the problem who do i correct ?? why does the older one go for a puppy this young ????

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Oh, gosh, i know it can be upsetting when dogs don't get along the way I wish they would.

How did you introduce them to each other? Did they get along before you brought the puppy home?

You might have to leave high value treats (like the bones you mentioned) in the cupboard for now. My dogs argue over kongs, so i have to separate them when I give them kongs.
 

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If I'm reading correctly, they're both females? For some this is a never ending problem - both may be alpha females. I would not let them have their treats together. If they're crate trained in separate crates, I'd only let them have their treats in their crates. You may need to play with them separately, too, at least for awhile. Do you leave them both out when you leave? That concerns me, b/c they could be royally fighting while you're gone. If you can afford it, you might want to hire a trainer and see what he/she has to offer.
 

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Hello thank you for answering my question , I do not know if the female theory .....breeders have many intact females all living together in harmony ??????? and no i do not trust them to leave them alone together :( the little one is crate trained thank god , i was just wondering if its a normal puppy loosing her license behaviour????

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It is common for 2 males or 2 females to not get along.

Hello thank you for answering my question , I do not know if the female theory .....breeders have many intact females all living together in harmony ??????? and no i do not trust them to leave them alone together :( the little one is crate trained thank god , i was just wondering if its a normal puppy loosing her license behaviour????

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It's not impossible for 2 females to get along, but it is very common for 2 females not to get along. It's far better to get the opposite sex if you're getting a second dog to avoid that, something the breeder should have told you.

I'd consult with a behaviorist. Not every dog gets along with every other dog and it sounds like the introduction was handled poorly, just throwing in the new puppy and expecting them to be best friends. Until you get help, don't leave treats or toys laying around. Also, with corrections, if the dog is already not liking the other dog and then you add hurting or scaring them to the mix, they could well learn that the other dog means getting attacked by their owner. That will not encourage love between them, it'll just make things worse.
 

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If I'm reading correctly, they're both females? For some this is a never ending problem - both may be alpha females. I would not let them have their treats together. If they're crate trained in separate crates, I'd only let them have their treats in their crates. You may need to play with them separately, too, at least for awhile. Do you leave them both out when you leave? That concerns me, b/c they could be royally fighting while you're gone. If you can afford it, you might want to hire a trainer and see what he/she has to offer.
I agree with crating for really high value stuff. BUT I would also be treating (for a sit or down) with both of them. My dogs line up and we play "This treat is for Rikki, This treat is for Alice, This treat is for Ray" and they only get the treat that is for them
 

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We have never had less than 4 bitches living together and currently have 7 and a male. There is a bit of growling from the oldest bitch who is taking over as matriach after we lost her mum a year ago. Only fight we have ever had was during a thunder storm when 2 bitches were in a crate at a show. They can and do get on.
I think your pup was probably not properly socialised in those critical weeks 6 to 16 and does not know how to interact with your older dog.
I would try playing with both of them together so they see that being together is fun. By play I mean tugging, retrieving, chasing a lure, gentle rough house scrubbs and be noisy and exciting yourself so that the fun experience is increased for the dogs. You may have some growls with them both vieing for the same toy so ensure you have 2 equaly exciting toys so you can have one on each. Do not turn it into a competition. They must have equal fun at all times.
All my students know I love the "F" word - FUN.
 

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Well, I noticed others on here saying they do it, but they seem to be very experienced dog trainers/handlers/show-ers.

It also sounds like you might be like me- not be really skilled and know only a little- so maybe it would be a lot to take on. I have 2 puppies- 1 f, 1 m, and even that is a lot of work.

For example, the female gets very protective with food in her bowl, so I hand feed them or feed them during training and with puzzle toys. And they will really scrabble over something high value like a raw bone. For these reasons, I never leave treats lying around, have had to put away toys they really like sometimes, and I give them Kongs in different rooms with the doors shut.

It is common for 2 males or 2 females to not get along.[/QUOT



Thank you for answering my question yes its common but is it impossible?????
 

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Yes, but you sound really skilled. Is it reasonable for just an average pet owner?

We have never had less than 4 bitches living together and currently have 7 and a male. There is a bit of growling from the oldest bitch who is taking over as matriach after we lost her mum a year ago. Only fight we have ever had was during a thunder storm when 2 bitches were in a crate at a show. They can and do get on.
I think your pup was probably not properly socialised in those critical weeks 6 to 16 and does not know how to interact with your older dog.
I would try playing with both of them together so they see that being together is fun. By play I mean tugging, retrieving, chasing a lure, gentle rough house scrubbs and be noisy and exciting yourself so that the fun experience is increased for the dogs. You may have some growls with them both vieing for the same toy so ensure you have 2 equaly exciting toys so you can have one on each. Do not turn it into a competition. They must have equal fun at all times.
All my students know I love the "F" word - FUN.
 

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I have 3 females and 1 male. Even after a great introduction, my oldest female could be snappy with my youngest girl - a GSD. They don't play together even though my GSD would love to but my oldest tolerates her just fine. But GSD will play with my other female dog and they play great together.

When I had a two dog household with my male and female and brought my 3rd dog in - even though they loved her on neutral ground - they hated her in the house. I had my house separated by baby gates for 3 months so they did not attack her. And now they live in harmony. Some things just take time and lots of patience.
 

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Don't leave them alone together. Feed separately. Keep treats picked up, and feed those separately.
Walk them briskly together at least twice a day, for 20 -40 min each time. Walking together helps them bond, and gets out excess energy which can make them more anxious/aggressive.
 

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Thank you all so much for the great advice the fights have diminished is that a good sign ??? or just bigger fights to come ????? im always there with them and try to discipline them when i see they are gettin to rough during play or anything???/



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What do you mean...discipline? There shouldn't be yelling, smacking, jerking, etc. If they are fighting over possessions, remove the possessions. If one is getting too rough with the other, separate them.
 
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