Dog needs to learn to chill

we have a 3 year old staff terrier "alli" and a 4 year old chihuahua "chevy". Alli is a very energetic dog which i understand is part of her breed. The issue is that we are having is that she is stubborn, (again another characteristic of her breed) Even to get her to lay on her bed is a huge issue when the family is trying to relax and watch TV. We have to constantly return her to her bed and repeat the stay command. In one ear and out the other. It gets to the point that she gets bannished from the room and has to sit upstairs alone. Chevy listens and stays when we give him the command. If alli is laying on her bed, you move, breathe, look at her, or pay attention to chevy its game over and she is in your face. I dont believe in yelling at pets. But its getting frusterating to the point that i find my self raising my voice and getting angry at her. Does anyone have a bully breed thats as stubborn as ours? What did you do to overcome or focus their energy in another way? (alli cant have treats or bones due to severe allergies)