I agree with this.I would not take the word of a behaviorist that never met my dog or family as a final word by any means!
Sometimes you have to think with your head and not your heart.. I realize how VERY easy it is to get attached to a puppy but it really doesn't sound like that puppy is a good fit for your FAMILY. It may suit you just fine, but from the way you describe its behavior toward your children, I'd honestly be afraid that the puppy would turn on them at some point, especially if the puppy is attached to you-- it may want to "protect" you from the kids or may try to become dominant over the kids in your 'pack'. The puppy's fear of the kids may never change, do you really want to take the chance of one of your children or your children's friends getting bitten? Then you not only risk the dog getting put to sleep, but also a lawsuit from the parents of the child who got bit (or a stranger who unknowingly reaches out to pet it when you are out for a walk). The puppy may be sweet and cute and funny, and the kids may "love" it~ but honestly, is it worth the risk?Its easier said than done! To take Jeter back is not an easy notion, whatsoever! Last night, once again, I mentioned it to my 8 year old daughter and she did not like it! So even though the dog is fearful of her, does not play with her, does not take treats from her, she still does not like the idea of returning him!! I asked her if she would cry if we take him back and she said "probably"!
My daughter does not wear anything scented! Nor does my 3 Year old daughter!Esabet,
I'm curious now..does your daughter wear any fragrance at all? Scented lotion? It's a long shot but it COULD BE a scent issue...it has happened before.
Just something to think about.
And Infiniti has the right idea...it is very likely that Jeter REALLY has to go out. Sometimes this means (at least at first) getting up and taking him out, on leash and see if he goes. If so, reward him and put him back in his crate. If not, simply put him back in the crate and go back to bed. If it IS him needing to go, then you can gradually increase the time before you take him out...it's hard having to rely on us "opposable thumbs" to relieve themselves...
Do they use a different soap than the rest of the family? Like a kids soap/shampoo. It might be whatever that is as well. You may not smell it, but it might be just enough different that the dog can.My daughter does not wear anything scented! Nor does my 3 Year old daughter!
Since he is OK with my son, I am going to ask my daughter to use his shampoo and body wash for a while and see how that flies!Do they use a different soap than the rest of the family? Like a kids soap/shampoo. It might be whatever that is as well. You may not smell it, but it might be just enough different that the dog can.
Well, esebet, it is probably for the best. Don't feel bad ... you did your best, and you worked hard to make it work...it just wasn't a good fit for your family. Jeter is simply a jumpy pup and would probably fare better in a one-person (adult) household that has low-level activity. That's just how it goes sometimes. Good for you that you did so much, though! There are many that would go that extra mile!
As for girls vs. boys, that's a personal call. I prefer girls, others prefer boys.
"Males are more prone to marking and aggressive behavior, but neutering can greatly reduce these behaviors. Males also have a reputation for humping people, objects, and other dogs. Most of the time this is a show of dominance that can be corrected with training. Some say that males are typically more dependent on their people than females. This often makes them more affectionate toward people. Male dogs have a tendency to be more eager to please during training, so they are slightly easier to train.
Female dogs are not as likely to mark their territory, which often makes them slightly easier to housetrain. They are also less likely to show dominance through humping people or objects, and tend to be less aggressive than male dogs. One drawback of female pets is that they tend to be very independent, which means they may like to have time alone, and they might not always want to be touched when you want to pet them. They can also be hormonal and moody. They can also be very stubborn, making training a bit more challenging." (Source http://www.essortment.com/hobbies/maledogsvsfem_tuxu.htm)
I don't think it's an issue to go to the same breeder, necessarily, if you have faith in the breeder. Sometimes a temperamental pup is born.