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Lily is a 4 pound Yorkshire. She is 4 year old now.. she is first dog. I had her 2016 when she was a puppy.. we bonded together very well.. she learned tricks like flipping on commands, fetching balls and other stuff.. we moved together to another city and again she adapted very quickly.. to be honest she changed my life completely..

it was very difficult to train her to stop barking when I leave the house to the extent that I moved with her to live in my friends basement because neighbours kept complaining and I had to leave work several times to assure her. I thought it’s a good idea to adopt another dog to keep her company and I did..I ended up having 2 dogs that bark when I leave instead of one.loool. I loved them so much but lily was very special to me.
2 years later, December 2017 I had to travel for an emergency that my young brother had a car accident and was in coma for 6 month then needed lots of travel and treatment for severe brain injury. My friend and her family took care of the the two dogs. It took about 2 year for me to settle and get my life back.

When I took them back, Lily adaptés very well but teddy was very frustrated. He wanted to go back to my friends.. they had a huge house with a backyard that’s almost a mini farm size.. used to run and play with no restrictions all day. My friends gave them all their time and attention as they work from home.

My friends got very attached to the dogs that I felt at some occasion that they deserved them more than I do.. mainly because they had the play space and the experience... I was very happy for the dogs but I missed them a lot especially Lily.. My friends wanted to keep the two dogs and advised me to get another puppy.. but after a lot of thinking I decided to keep lily and give teddy because the didn’t wanna stay in the appartement anymore. They advised that they should get the 2 dogs and not separate them because they could get depressed but I couldn’t give away lily even after 2 years.. during the 2 years I was visiting whenever I got a chance..

Finally, I got lily back.. it was heart breaking for every one.. my friends cried which broke my heart in fact they got shocked and depressed because they wanted to keep the dogs...

it’s her 3 rd day with me.. she moved from being like a twin to teddy 24/7 playing all day in the nature to an apartment with me. She knows me very well and remembers details. She has good appetite but she is not interested in any toy or game.. not even the ball which was her favourite. She doesn’t like the leash too..she follows me everywhere and seems to weggle her tail..

Now I am really not sure if she’s gna play again like the old days?? Or that’s it after chasing rabbits and birds? Does she want to be With me or prefer Teddy and my friends? Is she getting depressed? Friends advised me that I should keep her with teddy and not separate them.. and just get another puppy and start over. But I’m not sure I can do that.. to me she is not just a dog.. Will the two dogs cope will with the separation? Did I hurt my friends and teddy’s feelings?
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Two years is a long time, she had settled into that life and you just tore up her world and turned it upside down. she is grieving she wants her playmate and her 'family'

I realise she is your dog and you love her but sometimes when we love someone the best thing we can do is let them go.

Im sure she would adjust given time but she might never regain the spark she had..
 

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Thank you for answering.. I just don’t wanna feel that I abandoned her and the idea of getting on other dog just breaks my heart.. Its sad to see her not playing and lonely too.. I wish it never happened..
 

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Two years is a long time, she had settled into that life and you just tore up her world and turned it upside down. she is grieving she wants her playmate and her 'family'

I realise she is your dog and you love her but sometimes when we love someone the best thing we can do is let them go.

Im sure she would adjust given time but she might never regain the spark she had..
Two years is a long time, she had settled into that life and you just tore up her world and turned it upside down. she is grieving she wants her playmate and her 'family'

I realise she is your dog and you love her but sometimes when we love someone the best thing we can do is let them go.

Im sure she would adjust given time but she might never regain the spark she had..
Thank you for answering.. I just don’t wanna feel that I abandoned her and the idea of getting on other dog just breaks my heart.. Its sad to see her not playing and lonely too.. I wish it had never happened..do you think getting another puppy with her would fix the situation.. I was really hoping that she would be super excited to be with me again.. like she used to be..
 

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She is two years older, and many dogs mellow as they age. It may take 6 mos - 1 year, but she will adapt to being your dog, again. However, she will never again be the puppy that you had ... and if you had kept her, she might have grown out of that puppy enthusiasm. She may act somewhat like a Rescued dog and depend on you for everything, 24/7. It may help if you can find some friends nearby that she can play with, once a day, or at least once a week.

Also, I believe it would help if you could find a way to walk on a leash with you, working up to a 30 minute walk, twice a. day.
 

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She is two years older, and many dogs mellow as they age. It may take 6 mos - 1 year, but she will adapt to being your dog, again. However, she will never again be the puppy that you had ... and if you had kept her, she might have grown out of that puppy enthusiasm. She may act somewhat like a Rescued dog and depend on you for everything, 24/7. It may help if you can find some friends nearby that she can play with, once a day, or at least once a week.

Also, I believe it would help if you could find a way to walk on a leash with you, working up to a 30 minute walk, twice a. day.
Thank you very much, that is reassuring. And yes she follows me everywhere and seems really dependent..
I take her for walks everyday (3 days since I had her back) she doesn’t use the pee pads anymore.
I will work on the socialization part..
so I had her for 2 years and they had her for 2.. I just feel guilty that she depends on me walking her while she was free without a leash. She had lots of energy playing happily with her dog friend all the time (the family sent me films) but she doesn’t seem to be interested in any toy I offer..
I will do my best.. thank you very much..please let me know if you have more suggestions..
 
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