You may want to look at Nova Scotia Duck Tolling Retreivers. The English Cocker Spaniel seems to fit your bill perfectly. English and American Cockers are 2 seperate breeds and have very different personalities and looks, is it both breeds of cocker that you're afraid of? Of course you could always go with an lovable shelter mix, since 4-H allows you to show mixes. I will however warn you though that the show bug is contagious and your daughter may want to go further with her dog and show ay AKC or UKC shows, especialy is she's into animals. I started with my family's mix in 4-H and ended up getting a purebred within a year so I coud do even more than just 4-H.
4-H is WAY MORE than just "farm stuff". There is of course optin to raise acution animals, but they have projects for just about anything ou can think of. My county had projects for other things Fine Arts, Llamas, Leadership, Public Speaking, Cake decorating, Outdoor cooking, Fishing, and we even had a Rock Climbing project. The projects available depend on your club/county and if there's anyone available to teach them.I thought 4H did farm stuff. No idea they could do obedience stuff in there, cool.