. So here’s the thing about shadow that just perplexes me to no end.... I have taught her DOZENS of tricks she is the smartest dog I’ve ever had she is eager to please loving fiercely loyal she never runs away off leash and is just the best freaking dog on earth ACCEPT for this one thing.... and I cannot correct it. Any time a man gets near her or really anyone showing authority or size (anything she considers a possible threat) she is very aggressive shows her teeth hair up snaps growls even nips at people and in her little mind she’s driving them off and being protective of me and her domain. I scream at her till I’m blue in the face she knows **** well it’s going to make me very angry even before she does it but does it anyway because she thinks that it’s required to keep Strange people away and it works for her because she’s like 70 lbs and puts on a great show. 90% of people run and get back in their car. But here’s the thing. I live full time RV now and we are traveling and in these parks around tons of people and other dogs and I have to correct this. It’s not so much a behavior as it is a personality trait and I am TELLING you that this dog understands the whole situation completely she knows her being aggressive will keep people away and she knows it’s gonna make me incredibly angry at her but she thinks this is required in order to keep them away and is gonna do it anyway regardless of my response. How do I get her to understand that not every single person walking by the camper is out to get her and in fact The vast majority of them would love to scratch her back and pet her if she gave them a chance - I can’t figure out how to correct this. As smart as she is and loyal and everything else it’s the one thing just totally baffles me.... looking for help out there... I had two trainers tell me it’s hopeless but one of them was an idiot and told me dogs don’t have emotions only learned behavior .... pfft. BULL ! The only piece of the puzzle I’ve been able to figure out about her past is that it involves gun shots or loud bangs because she will pee herself and cower in the corner if I so much as pop the little bubbles that come in a FedEx box. New Year’s Eve like right now all the fireworks going off she’s beside herself with fear and it’s all related to the mysterious year of her history before she was with me that I don’t know about. One person once suggested to me someone was trying to train her to be a retriever - that’s what she is a Labrador retriever and probably took her out in the woods to go duck hunting and scared the bejesus out of her with shotguns beat her to an inch of life couldn’t get her to pass expectations and finally surrendered her to a shelter - ultimately I got her. That scenario makes the most sense to me and fits why she hates loud noises and men. But now she’s safe and sound has been for 5 years with me - HOW do I make her understand !!! Please help anyone out there she’s the perfect dog in every other single way and a great travel companion loves the road loves camping but I’m gonna end up in trouble or worse someone bit with her in the RV parks and I can’t figure this out.......
You will never know your dog's past, but know that some dogs are genetically pre-disposed to fear strangers or certain genders. It is in their head and you can't change that. Or it may be she was abused. Either way, the solution is the same.
First, stop screaming at your dog. At best, it does nothing. At worst, you make the problem worse because the thing she finds scary and is telling you about makes you scream and be scary. Hence, the problem gets worse.
Second, many, many, many dogs are scared of fireworks and guns and loud noises for no apparent reason. My own dog is fine during thunderstorms and doesn't much care about gunshots, but fireworks terrify him. Don't know why, I just accept and deal with it. This isn't really something you can fix....but you can make it better for her. Thundershirts, a dark quiet crate, or even medication if you know there are going to be loud noises can help.
Third, she's not being protective or even trying to protect her domain, she's just scared. View it as that and your perspective on this issue will change. It is your job to teach her that you have her back, you will take care of the scary things, and that she does not need to react. She may never really like men, she may never be social, but she can be okay and more comfortable.
I would encourage you to look up the "Reactive Dogs" sticky in the dog training forum. There is a lot of good information in there to get you started. It is for both frustration and fear reactive dogs, but the training is pretty much the same. Here: Links, books, blogs etc for reactive / leash aggressive dogs and similar
Basically, instead of screaming at her when she reacts, you are going to teach her what you want her to do instead. Starting at a distance that she is comfortable with, when she sees a man or a stranger or whatever is triggering her reaction, you are going to LOAD her with yummy treats. Get her to focus on you, not on the scary thing, and reward her!!! Keep her moving past the thing, standing and staring is not the best. If she reacts, you are too close and need to retreat. Eventually, she will be ignoring things that she usually reacted to. It takes a long time, but keep your expectations reasonable and celebrate little successes.
Also, if her anxiety is too much and you can't make headway, you may want to consider medication to take the edge off so she can be in a place where you can train her. If her mind is muddled and running 100 miles an hour because she's terrified, you will not succeed. It also helps to avoid triggers as much as possible when you begin training. And I know, I know, that's a lot easier said than done. Believe me, I've been there, but be creative and find ways to at least try.
Good luck!
First, stop screaming at your dog. At best, it does nothing. At worst, you make the problem worse because the thing she finds scary and is telling you about makes you scream and be scary. Hence, the problem gets worse.
Second, many, many, many dogs are scared of fireworks and guns and loud noises for no apparent reason. My own dog is fine during thunderstorms and doesn't much care about gunshots, but fireworks terrify him. Don't know why, I just accept and deal with it. This isn't really something you can fix....but you can make it better for her. Thundershirts, a dark quiet crate, or even medication if you know there are going to be loud noises can help.
Third, she's not being protective or even trying to protect her domain, she's just scared. View it as that and your perspective on this issue will change. It is your job to teach her that you have her back, you will take care of the scary things, and that she does not need to react. She may never really like men, she may never be social, but she can be okay and more comfortable.
I would encourage you to look up the "Reactive Dogs" sticky in the dog training forum. There is a lot of good information in there to get you started. It is for both frustration and fear reactive dogs, but the training is pretty much the same. Here: Links, books, blogs etc for reactive / leash aggressive dogs and similar
Basically, instead of screaming at her when she reacts, you are going to teach her what you want her to do instead. Starting at a distance that she is comfortable with, when she sees a man or a stranger or whatever is triggering her reaction, you are going to LOAD her with yummy treats. Get her to focus on you, not on the scary thing, and reward her!!! Keep her moving past the thing, standing and staring is not the best. If she reacts, you are too close and need to retreat. Eventually, she will be ignoring things that she usually reacted to. It takes a long time, but keep your expectations reasonable and celebrate little successes.
Also, if her anxiety is too much and you can't make headway, you may want to consider medication to take the edge off so she can be in a place where you can train her. If her mind is muddled and running 100 miles an hour because she's terrified, you will not succeed. It also helps to avoid triggers as much as possible when you begin training. And I know, I know, that's a lot easier said than done. Believe me, I've been there, but be creative and find ways to at least try.
Good luck!
