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Hello everyone. So I have 2 dogs only about 1 year apart in age. My female is the oldest at almost 2 and my male at almost 1. When my youngest came in as a 4 month old puppy, my female was very loving and cared for him and play spared gently with him. He got older and bigger and of course as expected she became more aggressive to show her disinterest. Just growls and snips. I can't remember the very first fight well or what started it but it has gotten more common and aggressive lately. If I see body language or a circumstance that indicates they may fight, it is easy to distract them or deescalate the situation before they fight. If they lock on though, it is very difficult to separate them, but it can be done with out any misdirected aggression toward me. Today they fought with no prior tell it was about to happen. Im sure there were subtle signs I missed but it was calm in the house. Im so tired of the fighting and the constant having to look over my shoulder every time I move to make sure the environment is zen enough not to worry about a random brawl. Suggestions are greatly appreciated!
 

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I hope you do get suggestions that can fix this for you. I have a similar situation - two Rottweiler bitches. The one would be friendly if she could. The other would kill her if she could, which means the times they got into it at least only one was being aggressive. The other was just trying to get away.

So I live with at least two baby gates between them at all times. I'm fortunate that both are very respectful of gates, but if I leave home one stays in a metal crate in addition to the gates separating. They go outside separately. It's a PITA, and I have to be very careful, made mistakes a couple of times when this first started that ended with ugliness that was very difficult to stop. As a friend remarked, I'm lucky that the aggressive one isn't very good at it and has never done a lot of damage, but she was worse with every encounter.

Now I'm obsessive about checking the location of one before letting the other out or into different parts of the house.

I know a lot of people don't want to deal with it and rehome one, and I'm not critical of that solution at all.
 

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I'm fortunate I don't have to keep them separated most of the time. They do play together and sleep with each other, even clean each other's ears. My youngest even whines for her while standing outside the kennel when the female gets crated after their fight. They may even clean each other's wounds afterwards! It's bizarre.
 

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I know you said they are a year apart. What ages are they now. 1 and 2? you have puppy growing up the 4 month old coming into your home, becoming a young adult, stage of testing the waters of what they can get away with, bigger in size wanting to play rougher as well.. And the older one still not a full experienced adult with all the graces that come with age, still young adult as well, getting tired of a pushy puppy and wanting to set boundaries that the pup isn't so easy going to accept now. (two kids playing in the sandbox fighting over toddler stuff) mentality.

My smartest dogs are the ones that set boundaries that they are not a new pups playmate from day one. They always establish they not equal level free for all playmates. They are the ones that do better when a younger pup gets bigger and wants to be annoying pup still listens to them and still give respect. The other dogs that do the playmate with a pup have more difficult time trying to establish behavior boundaries when the pup gets bigger, so they over correct trying to get their point across, and the pup still thinks they only a playmate and keeps pushing. And it escalates from one, and the other pushes back harder as well

They still both need your hands on direct guidance at this age on how to handle themselves and living in your house. Yes separate, fall back on strict house hold schedule of interaction, dial up you OB skills and bonding through working with them one on one. Usually working on them as individuals they grow through the stage , restores peace an a sense of well being in the house hold as the norm. It's more exciting to look for opportunities to fight over something think that is why dogs get stuck in that for a daily routine. You want them to be focusing in on you and not what each other is doing. That is one of the things I work on, not to start looking at the other dog (none of your business) for me it always starts with focusing in on what the other dog is doing...

They need a consistent break for a while, break the cycle restore confidence for them that they not going to cause a fight or constantly be waiting to be challenged or attacked over something. Work on their focus to you, new skills they can perform individually, like sending one somewhere. (me it was back to the house) or (freeze) Hopefully in your pair as male /female it's a phase they not have the skills how to handle situations right now.
 
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