New to the forums and this is my first post. Sorry of it is too long. I guess first a little background on our dog owning experience.
My wife had a Border Collie whom she adopted from a local shelter as a pup and become our Border Collie when we got married. She lived to about 14 years of age until cancer and old age forced us to euthanize her, to this day I miss her dearly and wsh she was still by my side playing with me. She never saw a bad day and was always loved and loved us back unconditionally. In that time we also had two cats that each lived to about 15 years of age until renal failure set in. Our dog and our two cats never saw a bad day, they were always loved and cared for and never ignored. They were part of the family and we never really thought of them as pets per say although we were never the crazy dog or cat people. We knew that in order to have healthy pets you need to be realistic as to how many there can be in a home. Anyway, we euthanized our last cat about two years ago and have decided that our daughter who is now 13 and loves dogs needs a companion to call her own.
We are looking for a mellow adult dog such as a Lab Mix that is house trained, calm and loving but also would like to go out on longer walks such as a mile or two or running if the weather permits it.
We have applied at multiple local dog rescue orgs when we find a dog who seems to be a fit. However, we always get rejected or (better yet never hear back) for reasons such a such as:
1. "oh, you mean someone will not be home every single day all day with the dog?".
2. "Oh, this dog needs someone to be with him every moment of the day". "Is it possible to maybe work from home or get a different job or maybe one of you can just stay home?".
3. The best is how many hours will the dog be alone. Well since my wife and I both work realistically seven. "Oh, oh my god, no the dog will think it has been abandoned again, someone has to be home with it most if not all of the day!!!".
4. When asked how many times the dog will be walked we explain: "The plan is to walk the dog early around 5 AM when I get up, my wife and daughter will walk the dog again around 7AM for about 30 minutes before they leave for work and school, then when they return around 3:30PM or 4PM they will walk the dog again for 30 to 45 minutes. After dinner we'll take the dog for a walk and again before bed time. Weather permitting and if the dog likes it I plan on taking it running with me so that will give the dog a three or four mile run. I understand that not all dogs are into 3 or 4 mile run so that has to be gauged. If the dog wants to only do a mile or less I planned on altering my route to pick the dog up for the last mile and have it run with me.
A few times all of a sudden they "forgot" that the dog was promised to someone else even though we had planned to meet him or her, or the rescue just runs away once we start asking questions about the dog. I feel that if they can ask questions regarding our family life, ask for references and visit our home we should be able to ask in-depth questions about the dog. Correct?
So, =is this typical with dog rescue orgs, are we doing something wrong or are they just nuts? I'm not about to make a 10+ year commitment, especially with our child being involved without asking questions. Then on the other hand these are the same dog rescue orgs that see at local pet adoption days literally throwing dogs at people who walk into the store. It almost seems as if these orgs are being unrealistic as to what to expect with people who make a living. What bothers me most is that six months later they still have the same poor dog up for adoption because they can't "find a home for the dog".
It not like either myself, my wife or our daughter are scared of dogs. We were over a friends house and our daughter was playing with their two fully grown GSD's the entire time. This experience has frustrated my wife and I as well as our daughter to the point where I see why people go to breeders and dump the rescue orgs which unfortunately dumps the dog.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.