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    I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    Just a warning, this is going to be a long post!!!





    I've had my dog, Wicket(Yorkie/Pekingnese mix), since he was 8 weeks old and he was a joy to have. Great attitude, happy, fun...all the awesome things I love about having a dog. After he turned 7 months, we got him neutered and he has become a demon dog immediately following. I thought dogs mellowed out MORE after the procedure?!?! He's almost 10 months now and I've been dealing with his awful behavior for a few months now hoping that it's going to go away. In this time, I've been finding that he refuses to listen to either me or my SO. He knows a ton of tricks but will only do them when he feels like it or if there's a treat. Of course, immediately following the treats, he goes right back to what he wants to do. I've gone back to basics with his training to reinforce good behavior but I don't think it's working. And to be honest, I am starting to just really...not like him!

    I know that's an awful thing to say and yes, I'm fully aware that owning a dog is a huge investment with time, patience, EVERYTHING. I understand that it's a LOT of work and I'm willing to do it but I just feel hopeless because nothing seems to be paying off. It's like everything he's learned and knows has just gone right out the window. He's starting to get aggressive with me too but not with my SO which I don't understand because I am not timid in behavior or anything!! One incident occured this past weekend where he was in my second bedroom and watched me come into the room, he growled and barked at me like I was stranger but I KNOW he saw it was me!!! He's done this a few times to me recently. He's also regressed in his potty training and we've had two poop incidents in the past month even though we had just brought him outside to do his businness right before!!

    I'm seriously at my wits end and I've just been really upset and crying. I want him to be happy and to be a well behaved dog!! But I don't expect him to be a perfect angel and to not have mishaps, I understand that those things happen. I do, however, hope for some progress!! I find myself stressing out about it at all hours and I don't know what to do...

    I'm sorry, I just really needed to vent. I don't know if there's anything I expect you all to tell me to make it magically better...maybe I just need to know I'm not alone in my misery. God, I hate myself for not liking my dog!!! Don't get me wrong, I love him...but I seriously don't LIKE him!!! Does that sound stupid??

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    Wow - you're in a tough situation. Since you stated the dog changed after surgery, have you discussed these problems with your vet? Good luck - I'm sure you'll get more helpful responses.

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    The growling and barking in the bedroom seems like a resource guarding issue. If this continues, it is something that should be addressed because it can progress. There's lots of material online to read, or you can see if there's a behaviorist in your area. Obedience classes would also be good if you haven't gone that route already.

    I had a similar problem with my dog regressing after being housetrained. Just go back to basics completely. Use a crate, if it helps. Make sure you're cleaning the spots he pees or poops on with a special deoderizer. Limit water at night and keep meals at set times. Heavy praise for going outside. When the weather is nice I have my dog eat outside so she can go to the grass directly afterwards.

    I doubt these problems really have anything to do with being neutered, but more to do with transitioning from being a cute, energetic little puppy to a rambunctious and boisterous teenager.

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    your surgery coincided with adolescence

    adolescences is an awful time and is the time that ALL dogs need more guidance.... and firm rules... you can get through this period with some effort....

    think about a fourth grader.... great age.... they want to please, they are pleasant to hae around and think about what happens to the same kid when they turn 14 and how awful that age is..... its the same thing with your dog

    at 7 mos. he was a baby and now at ten months he is a bratty adolescent

    now is the time for some good clear rules and obedience training....

    neutering does nothing but birth control..... behavior doesn't change and it should never be done to change behavior.... but with some training and effort on your part in a few months your good boy will be back ....

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    It's not stupid at all. I know when I got my dogs as pups, esspecially my Cavalier, I vowed I would never get a pup again and kept questioning why I put myself through it again. Puppies can be very difficult at times and take tons of patience. Keep at it and don't get to down it will pay off soon enough.

    What sort of training or basics have you been doing with him? Have you been traning him yourself or going to classes? What's your prior dog experience?

    As far a the house training goes, did he go to the bathroom when you took him out? If not then you need to make sure he is doing his business before he's allowed back in. Also make sure that your keeping him on a regular schedule of feeding and bathroom times.
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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    Give it a few (3-4) months and he will start to get out of the teenage stage. I would invoke a strict NILIF, keep him dragging a leash while you are home (so you can get ahold of him easily if the need arises). If you can't watch him, crate him. And enroll in a basic obedience class, he may already know commands and tricks, but going to a class can be very helpful in opening up communication between you and your dog again. Pretend he knows nothing at all and treat him like he knows nothing.

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    I just want to add that the not recognizing you thing seems to be very predominant in small breed dogs. They must not have good eyesight or something.

    Luckily I don't have the problem with my little dogs, but all of my mom's little dogs have that problem. If you are any distance away they will bark at you like you are the devil incarnate. Yet as soon as you say their name or if they get close enough to recognize you, they are immediately embarrased (I know dogs aren't capable of embarrasment, but I don't know what else to call it), ears back and all wiggles of apology.

    It's very odd if you ask me but I have seen it happen many a time with the small breed dogs she has.

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    Re: I feel awful, but I can't stand my dog!!

    I agree with Shalva. Your dog has entered into adolescense, and some are worse than others! Don't feel badly about your negative feelings toward your dog; they're understandable, and normal! However, do be aware that your dog is very much aware of your feelings of frustration, and, that this can contribute to undesireable behavior.

    Take a deep breath, and remind yourself that this, too, shall pass!

    FWIW, there was a time when Maddy was such a challenge, I was ready to break her neck (non-violently, and with love)! LOL Seriously, I thought I was stuck with a dog I could not stand! Well, that was short-lived, and I have to tell you, I've never in my life had a better or closer relationship with a dog than I have with her. She's my heart dog, my once in a lifetime. She's awesome, so amazing, and I love her to death.

    Hang in there, girl!

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