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    I have a 7 yo pug. Hes trained, house broken, I am fine with the upkeep associated with pugs. It's just that he inflicts SO MANY problems on himself. Like the time he ate all three dogs' food and we thought something seriously wrong happened. Or not eating at all. Or eating something dumb.
    Lately his thing is to not eat allllll day, make himself ill and throw up simply because my husband isn't home. Once he gets home he eats and settles down... or I have to coax him into REALIZING hes hungry and not ill by giving him junk. Otherwise he sits in the bathroom all day. Just sits. It is so unnerving, frustrating, and upsetting. The days when i exist to him he comes to bed and sits up and stares. I make my husband close the bedroom door when he leaves. Some days i leave the house altogether to get away from him.
    I'm going to have a baby in three months, I don't want to have to baby my damn dog and his self inflicted misery. It's all new crap too. I give him what he wants but he treats me like a walking piece of garbage unless hes being needy, walks with his tail down and looks just unsettled until my husband gets home. It's gotten to the point where I lock myself in the bedroom and come out to take him out for an actual walk and make dinner until my hub gets home. I cant stand it anymore. Right now hes sitting on the living room couch, has been for the last 3 hours when he woke me up staring. And that's because I locked him out of the bathroom and he cant skulk in the shadows.
    I think this is more for venting than advice. I didn't sleep that much because of his antics- again - so this may not make sense. What is his deal? Why am I a walking turd since my hub and I moved in together 2.5 years ago, when he used to adore me?
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    Don't let a dog make you feel bad. Let him sit in the bathroom all day if he wants to. Why would it upset you? I suspect he's picking up on your frustration, so he doesn't want to interact with you, which makes you more frustrated, etc. So let him do whatever he wants to do as long as it's not destructive. I'm not sure what "antics" kept you awake? He sounds like a quiet dog.
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    He probably knows you don't like him....dogs are sensitive animals and can sense body language a mile away.

    It sounds like he needs a good, loving home with someone that is able to give him the time, love, and affection he craves.

    You will be busy with a new baby and will not be able to give him what he needs....

    Please re-home him to a loving family.
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    Rehoming a seven year old pig would be extremely tough. That is considered a "senior" aged dog and pugs are already prone to so many health problems, let alone senior issues.

    If he doesn't like his food, try something more enticing. My dog is extremely picky...I feed her ZiwiPeak and she still won't eat it right away unless I add boiling water to her food to bring out the flavor more. Maybe your dog simply doesn't like what food he has. Or, give him a set amount of time to eat, say 15 minutes, then take his food away. Train him to understand when it is time to eat. Leaving food out all the time gives dogs the choice to graze and if that's annoying you then you need to train him to eat on a schedule. He will eat when he's hungry.

    As for his "attitude" towards you...well I'm sure he can sense how you feel about him and he's depressed. Why don't you give him some positive attention...take him for a short walk, cuddle him, do training with him. He could also be bored since you seem to pay him no mind and you lock yourself away from him...maybe he's staring at you because he wants you to give him the attention he deserves.

    Once the baby comes, I bet you will try to rehome him anyway but I beg you to at least contact a breed specific rescue if you do so...if you take a seven year old pug to a shelter, he will likely be put down.

    Good luck.
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    I would say, let him be your husband's baby. You'll be busy with the human baby soon enough. If you don't want to interact with him, then don't (although maybe you have to let him out to pee once during the day). I agree that trying to re-home him would likely result in his death, unless you have a friend or family member who is just dying to have him.

    Also, my cousin is pregnant, and let me just say. . .you aren't yourself right now. Don't make any big decisions based on cranky pregnancy hormones.
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    How very sad.
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    Yeah how can someone hate their dog???? I also have a very needy dog, rescue Buddy who has abandonment issues can at times be very needy ( sometimes he needs to be reassured that he is a good dog & that he is doing good etc...) alsO I can't go anywhere without him (except the bathroom, which is a dog free zone.... Something about a dog staring at me while I try & pee or something that unnerves me lol).

    I also agree that you are prolly having like... Major hormone issues right now, I know how I feel when it's my 'time of thr month' or a little before so I can only imagine what you are going through :/. Just step back & Take a deep breath. As for eating what is he eating, some dogs won't eat or don't like low end kibble, also I'd recommend fresh, frozen raw instead of unhealthy ppl food to entice him to eat (I have a kinda picky eater & the raw worked like a charm for her). I feed natures variety instinct (their grain free) but its pricy but with a pug a bag would last you like.... Three months or something lol.
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    The dog knows you hate him. Why would he want to be around someone that hates him? You seem to hate him because he does things that dogs do. Stressful atmospheres can make dogs not eat/throw up. And you are anthropomorphizing his actions and taking them personally. Find the poor dog a good home.

    You might want to be very aware of your emotions. I worry that when you have the baby, if, God Forbid, the baby is cranky when you hold it, and it quiets for your husband, you are going to be angry at the baby because it likes your husband better, and you will start treating the baby with contempt. Add in post partum hormones, and you have a recipe for disaster.
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    I agree with everyone else: the dog KNOWS you hate him, and he is probably feeling very nervous and stressed because of it. How would you like to spend your day around someone that you KNOW hates you? He probably just wants to be loved, the poor thing. That's probably why he is staring at you. he is craving love and attention but he knows that you hate him so he is feeling stressed and neglected.

    I think you need to stop being so hateful towards the poor dog. Give him some love and attention and maybe you'll realize he's a good dog. I bet you'll see a complete change in his personality after you stop being so mean to him. He'll be so much happier in a loving environment.
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    I guess my first thought (other than this being a really sad situation!) is -- has he always been like this?? If not, has he had a thorough check up at the vet to see if anything is causing changes in behavior?

    Doesn't sound like your dog really has a routine. At least Monday through Friday, we have a good routine going with our dog. I'm actually concerned because my job is ending in the next few months and I'm going to have to totally rework the routine! It'd probably be good for both of you if you went out for a few hours during the day. Maybe have your husband feed him breakfast and dinner if he won't eat it from you. Start doing fun activities together. Take him to the park, or do a training class with him, or just do some training at home with him.

    I'm also not entirely sure what you expect from him? I love my dog, and he does actually just sit and stare at me sometimes. Not sure why, but if I talk to him he wags his tail, so I figure it's all good.

    I think you might be overthinking his motivations for his behaviors. I don't believe that dogs do things with premeditation or out of spite. My dog loves me better than my husband, but he doesn't resent my husband when I'm not home. He goes bonkers when I get home, but he's fine with my husband too. Maybe your dog likes the bathroom floor because it's cool. Again that kind of goes back to making sure there aren't medical issues that would make him want to be cool. Don't stress about it though, it's not like you've got the dog chained to the toilet. If he's unhappy in there, he'll go elsewhere.
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    Sounds to me like your dog is having anxiety issues and you are contributing heavily to that. I have a Pug the same age, he's loved by the whole household and knows it. He's VERY sensitive though and picks up on the moods of those around him quickly. If you're going to rehome him, do so through rescue so potential adopters can be screened and he'll get a home that appreciates the little guy.
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    Your pug is just asking for the attention you are not giving him. When your kid arrives you will have even less inclination , or time, to give the little guy attention and that is going to lead to him getting even more emotionally unstable and add in post partum blues and I see this little guy being hurt, or worse.

    As k a relative or friend to look after him for a month or two until you have settled down into a better place after the arrival of the little one, but in the meantime, try and show the animal the respect and love he is craving.
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    Last year a friend of mine had a baby and mentioned that very quickly her dog became much less of an interest for her. She had previously been organizing events for friends with dogs, and the new baby was taking up much more of her time. It won't be long before your child is born and soon after that will be old enough to show an interest in your dog. Also, I would certainly understand if my wife didn't show much interest in the dog while she was pregnant or after the child was born.
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    What I hear, is someone who is tired and frustrated. and probably hormonal... this is a rough time in your pregnancy, and you probably don't feel all that great.

    Emmett makes me crazy if I have to skip a walk for more than one day. So I take him for a ride in the car, or a stroll through Lowe's. Sometimes, I'll sit down with him and we'll work his doggy puzzle or a Kong, the mental stimulation helps his mood too. It also gives me a break.

    does he like rides in the car? maybe take him to a dog park and let him run, sniff, and work off pent up energy.

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    This breaks my heart because I have been in Pugs for 21 years and don't understand how anyone could hate a Pug. Contact a regional Pug Rescue so this poor guy can be rehomed where he will be loved.
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    Re: I hate my dog

    Please don't take anything on here the wrong way, as for the most part I don't think anyone has really meant anything too negative, but we're trying to get a little better understanding of your situation. Sounds like you're very quite along in your pregnancy, so even without the little pug, you may not be feeling the greatest (he's probably not the sole reason for some of your frustrations anyway).

    Routine is a necessity for most dogs. Whether you feed once, twice, or three times a day, something close to a set routine typically helps when possible. Also, many breeds can't really be left with food just out for them at all times. I don't know about Pugs specifically, but many will just eat and eat and eat, rather than merely when they're hungry. Some dogs will grow tired of the same food after a period of time.

    As for the behaviors, I'm not sure any of us understand what "antics" have kept you up at night, based on what you've described. He sounds like a quiet little pug. Some of his behaviors may very well stem from your treatment of him. He's a dog; he's going to want some level of attention. Even the most independent dogs don't tend to want to be left in solitude every waking moment. However, if his behaviors have been a more recent development, a trip to the vet could possibly reveal something.
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    Please contact a rescue and rehome him. Dogs have been bred for thousands of years to pick up on human emotion, especially companion dogs like pugs. He knows you hate him. He knows everything he does makes you angry. So he endures as best he can until your husband comes home.

    Maybe it is the hormones, which are tough, but it's not an excuse to emotionally abuse a defenseless animal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rubydm View Post
    I have a 7 yo pug. Hes trained, house broken, I am fine with the upkeep associated with pugs. It's just that he inflicts SO MANY problems on himself. Like the time he ate all three dogs' food and we thought something seriously wrong happened. Or not eating at all. Or eating something dumb.
    This is about simple management. Dog proof the house so there aren't things lying around that he shouldn't eat. Dog proofing a house is only half of what you have to do to baby proof a house.

    You have multiple dogs? Did I read that correctly? If that is the case, feed them in separate rooms, behind baby gates, or in crates so that they eat their own food only. Put their food down for 15-20 minutes twice a day. If it's not eaten, pick it up and let them be hungry until their next meal time.

    He is a DOG. He's not intentionally inflicting problems on himself. He is just a dog. Set him up for success and stop expecting him to make all the right decisions.

    Lately his thing is to not eat allllll day, make himself ill and throw up simply because my husband isn't home. Once he gets home he eats and settles down... or I have to coax him into REALIZING hes hungry and not ill by giving him junk. Otherwise he sits in the bathroom all day. Just sits. It is so unnerving, frustrating, and upsetting. The days when i exist to him he comes to bed and sits up and stares. I make my husband close the bedroom door when he leaves. Some days i leave the house altogether to get away from him.
    I'm going to have a baby in three months, I don't want to have to baby my damn dog and his self inflicted misery. It's all new crap too. I give him what he wants but he treats me like a walking piece of garbage unless hes being needy, walks with his tail down and looks just unsettled until my husband gets home. It's gotten to the point where I lock myself in the bedroom and come out to take him out for an actual walk and make dinner until my hub gets home. I cant stand it anymore. Right now hes sitting on the living room couch, has been for the last 3 hours when he woke me up staring. And that's because I locked him out of the bathroom and he cant skulk in the shadows.
    I think this is more for venting than advice. I didn't sleep that much because of his antics- again - so this may not make sense. What is his deal? Why am I a walking turd since my hub and I moved in together 2.5 years ago, when he used to adore me?
    It sounds like you're making him nervous most of the time. When I'm in a crappy mood, for ANY reason, my dog lays in a different room and watches me from there. She recognizes every curse word in my vocabulary no matter what kind of tone I say it in. When I'm in a good mood, she watches me, staring a hole in my head, from the nearest comfy spot. Even the independent dogs in my house spend plenty of time staring at me. It's part of the package with a dog.

    You need to let go of this grudge and spend time bonding with him. Take him on walks. Take him to fun positive reinforcement training classes. A "clicks for tricks" type class would be a fun place to start.

    If you can't do that, tell your husband how you feel and contact your regional pug or small breed rescue.
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    This is why I have dogs & not kids, I would hate myself if I found myself feeling this way about one of my dogs , ESP Buddy & how sensitive he is
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tofu_pup View Post
    This is about simple management. Dog proof the house so there aren't things lying around that he shouldn't eat. Dog proofing a house is only half of what you have to do to baby proof a house.

    He is a DOG. He's not intentionally inflicting problems on himself. He is just a dog. Set him up for success and stop expecting him to make all the right decisions.
    Totally agree. Dogs aren't like humans - they don't plot revenge, plan their misdemeanours, etc. They just react to situations - pretty much every time Hamish has done something naughty, I have realised that it is a reaction to something I did, and not in a planned / calculated way, just simply an almost involuntary reaction.
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