I brought home a shelter pup two months ago, and he's been great! Well behaved, house broken, sweet with people. The only problem is that my kitty doesn't share my enthusiasm for him. She's been living upstairs since he came home. Lately she's been showing a little more nerve....creeping down a few stairs, meowing and observing him (which is a step up from a few weeks ago when she used to hiss and spit at the sight of him). But see, then the dog gets excited, jumps around a bit and she takes off. (I currently have the upstairs gated off so she has a haven in the house where she doesn't have to worry about being bothered)
I know the dog doesn't want to hurt her. He sees her as a potential playmate. But at the same time, I can see why the cat would find his exuberance a bit unsettling (He's also a lot bigger than her too).
So my question is this: should I let her slowly build up her nerve and let things continue to unfold at this creeping pace? Or should I force the two of them in a room together and let them just hash it out all at once?
I'm eager to get her back downstairs again. Because I think she's bored up there and I selfishly miss having her snuggle with me during the day. What should I do?