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Old 06-18-2007, 03:06 PM   #1
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Would Like Others People's Opinons

I normally don't post too personal of things on boards, but since I'm driving myself crazy I figured I'd get others opinions on this. I'll make it as short as possible.

Well things between me and my b/f of over 2 yrs. started going downhill like a year ago or more. Certain "things" have not been attended to in almost a year. He rarely says a word to me, and never shows affection in any shape or form. All he does is work, comes home and sits on the comp. and plays games and drinks beer, and then goes to bed. Repeat that on the weekends all day.

He says he doesn't know where his life is going and yadda yadda and that's why he is acting the way he is. Says he has no motivation, but until I find something laying around I believe it. We never go out together, yet Mr. No Motivation I find out goes out with his friends while I'm at work. Which to me is total bs because I've been to no motivation town and that means you do nothing. So then I'm mad.

Now, here's the turn in event. People have been telling me since he wants "nothing to do with me" there has to be someone else. I denied, denied, denied. Then yesterday I was talking to my mom about me just going out all the time, and he never asks where I've been, or what I've been doing. Like he doesn't care or something.

Then her b/f pulls me into the kitchen and tells me to drive and get off at a certain exit, wait, and that I'd see (I guess there's adult things that go on. Friend of mine told me what goes on there). Of course I told my mom about it. She told me to take it with a grain of salt because why would he know anything about my b/f. I thought "yeah she's right." But then I think why on earth would he tell me something like so randomly, and after the fact that I said I thought my b/f just doesn't care anymore.

So now my gut is wrenched in that feeling that I know my mom's b/f is right about something. My head says not possible, but that gut feeling of "I know he's right" is lingering. So I guess basically what I'm asking is, does anyone think the gut instinct could be right and I should get to the bottom of this?
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Old 06-18-2007, 03:12 PM   #2
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Re: Would Like Others People's Opinons

Your instinct is most likely right. I hope b/f doesn't live with you or that you have any joint credit. For now, play normal. Do the investigative work you need to satisfy your head enough to tell your heart to let go. Make the plans you need to extricate yourself if need be. And if the need doesn't arise, then you have your own money and resources available, which every woman needs anyway.
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Old 06-18-2007, 03:19 PM   #3
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Re: Would Like Others People's Opinons

The question you need to answer is, why are you in a relationship? IMO, until you've made it own your own successfully, and you've achieved all your early career goals, a long term relationship will only slow you down. If it were me, I would drop the dead weight, get successful, then find someone who's also successful. I don't mean to devalue your relationship, but I wish someone had pointed this out to me when I was younger.
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Your instinct is most likely right. I hope b/f doesn't live with you or that you have any joint credit. For now, play normal. Do the investigative work you need to satisfy your head enough to tell your heart to let go. Make the plans you need to extricate yourself if need be. And if the need doesn't arise, then you have your own money and resources available, which every woman needs anyway.
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Re: Would Like Others People's Opinons

Thanks. I was thinking the gut is right. And this little girl will get to the bottom of it. Me and a friend are working on a game plan. I don't go into things half cocked and without back up. It's a rather complicated situation as I've gotten myself a pinch tied to him at the moment, but things will work out. I'm just glad other people think the gut is right. Thanks so much.
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