Any military members?

Chikadee · 02-27-2007, 04:38 AM

Or spouses or children of someone in the military on here?

My husband and I have been married for 8 months and he just left for a 6 month deployment and I'm having a little trouble dealing with it. I also had a miscarriage at the end of January, and that just adds to it. I've always had a problem with depression, but not like this...

Just wondering if anyone's been through this and had any advice they'd like to share.

tirluc · 02-27-2007, 08:45 AM

Chikadee, that really sucks....i'm not military or involved in it now (was yrs ago) but just wanted to say, HANG IN THERE and lean on those dogs of yours....i see Rhea is your seizure dog...now she gets to be your shoulder as well.....they get us thru soooo much and don't sit there and try to tell us we're being too emotional......just wake up each morning and find something to keep you busy, time will go faster than you think.....

take care....

DOBERMAN_07 · 02-27-2007, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Chikadee

Or spouses or children of someone in the military on here?

My husband and I have been married for 8 months and he just left for a 6 month deployment and I'm having a little trouble dealing with it. I also had a miscarriage at the end of January, and that just adds to it. I've always had a problem with depression, but not like this...

Just wondering if anyone's been through this and had any advice they'd like to share.

My best friend joined the Army ~2 years ago because school wasnt for him and he needed structure in his life. Since then he really excelled... Serving in Kuwait, Afghanistan, and Iraq. He won a medal for taking out an insurgent trying to drive a car bomb into their convoy and caused him to blow up without any casualties. He was also wounded when their Humvee ran over an I.E.D and he received the Purple Heart for that.

You would think that after going through all of that, he would come home when his contract is up, but nooooooo.... He just recently passed some special forces training and he intends on turning the military into a career.

I (and the rest of our group of friends) am very proud of him. I wish him the best of luck and success even though we dont get to see him as often. Yes it sucks that we cant hang out like we used too, but at the same time I understand that this is something he loves and needs in his life. I would hate my self if I was anything but happy for the guy

Chikadee · 02-27-2007, 05:20 PM

I'm definately proud of him, that's one of the things that keeps me going. And I definately want him to be happy. In fact, because of the miscarriage he had the option of not going but I told him to go because his happiness was all I wanted. That's great about your best friend.

Kinda the same reason my cousin joined the army.

Just kinda hard sometimes, I don't have any family out here (my family and in-laws live in Ohio) or many good friends. I have one, but I don't get to see her very often (she works nights, I work days, lol).

My dogs definately help more than they know though.

And the pup definately keeps me busy.

vedo · 02-28-2007, 05:24 PM

My son was in the military for six years and just got out. He was stationed in Pakistan (officially we do not have a base there....but we do) I could email him whenever I wanted to.....one word of caution....the military monitors everything that is said. I said some pretty tough things about President Bush and my emails were blocked for months! The hotmail folks told me that my emails were going to someone else....or else I would not have known.

All I can say, is enjoy sending packages.....be creative and have fun sending stuff. I sent a huge box and wrote on the outside "weapons of mass distraction" and filled the box with all kinds of water guns. I guess they passed them around and had some fun.

Chikadee · 02-28-2007, 11:49 PM

[quote=vedo;39542]one word of caution....the military monitors everything that is said. I said some pretty tough things about President Bush and my emails were blocked for months! The hotmail folks told me that my emails were going to someone else....or else I would not have known.QUOTE]

Lol, then I probably shouldn't email him about my favorite part of the Letterman show: Great moments in presidential speeches.

Cracks me up everytime!

I've sent a few packages and Friday I have this dinner for family members of the deployed and they have a room for us to make free video messages, so that should be fun

Mr. N · 03-03-2007, 06:28 PM

I was in the Marine Corps. I got out back in 2002.

cshellenberger · 03-04-2007, 06:35 PM

I'm a military wife, I've been married to my husband for ten years and yes, deployments SUCK. Where are you located? Do you know who your spouse supprt group omsbudsman is? I know it's hard, my best advice is that if you are having a difficult time with depression, get help NOW. I know how it feels.

Having a party to send Video messages is a great idea, the more you can interact with the other spouses and the parents of the unit members, he easier it will be to handle this. If you need any one to vent to, give me a PM or email me.

BeckyBeagal · 03-04-2007, 07:37 PM

I was in the Army but got out cuz of disability(back injury) and my husband is in the Army. I guess you are close to military base, usually they have lot of programs to help families of deployed soldiers and support groups. Luckily I and my hubby who was friends back then was deployed at the same time. So I didn't have to deal with what you are going through. But as Carla said, mix with other spouses and also talk to Chaplin who I believe will guide you to various programs and support groups. Hope this helps. Just HANGING THERE!!!!

Chikadee · 03-05-2007, 03:11 PM

Thanks guys.

We're stationed at Peterson AFB in Colorado Springs right now. I've thought about going to Ohio for his deployment (where both of our families are) but it'd be such a big pain cause then I'd have to find someone to watch the house and take care of things (we live in base housing) and I'd rather not drag the dogs halfway across the country for a short time and then come back. Lol.

The dinner was a lot of fun and I met a lot of people while I was there.

I'm hanging in for now

Just dealing with each day as it comes.

doglady · 03-05-2007, 05:09 PM

I was in the military as was my then husband. He went on a 6 monther and I was devistated. I agree with the post regarding the ombudsman group...you will be among other people going through the same thing and it is a great forum to express yourself with people who totally understand. They also have picnics, parties, group mail/boxes to the loved ones. Safety in numbers perse'. I learned to KEEP BUSY...I volunteered with different childrens' groups, and just tried to take everyday just one day at a time. Don't try to project too much into the future..time moves too slowly then. Volunteer at local animal shelters or not for profit vets offices. Just try to keep busy! Don't forget to see a doctor for your depression...it WILL help.

Elijah · 03-05-2007, 05:22 PM

I was in the Army during the Viet Nam Era...paid my dues.