Please Help Me!

Noel · 08-24-2008, 10:29 PM

I really need some help. I didn't feel like eating tonight, because it was making me feel kind of sick, so my dad started whacking me with a spatula in any place possible. I started hyperventilating because I was so scared, and I hid under my mom's desk. My dad started screaming at me to get out, and then he forced me to choke down some rice. Normally, that would have been a breeze, but I was hyperventilating REALLY had. Have you tried eating something when you were hyperventilating? Well, whenever I got the food in my mouth, it coked on it, becuase I kept involuntarily breathing it in. My dad would hit me unmercifully any time I did that. I couldn't help it, and I told him that and he said sarcastically, "Well, it looks like you have a problem." and I said "Well yeah!" and he said, well, rather, screamed, "YOU ARE GOING TO EAT THIS FOOD!" and he started whacking me. If I didn't have it finished every five minutes, he whack the heck out me again. I told him that I was trying so hard, but he said I was just spitting it out, which we all know wasn't true. Once I finally finished it, I ran off to my room, and locked the door. When my dad was gone, I opened the door, and went across the hall, and told my mom, and she laughed! Did she think this was funny? She told me to stop being all dramatic. Then my dad shoved a Coke in my face (???) and ran in my room and locked my door and started typing. Even thinking about this is make me cry, which is making me hyperventilate even more. If I start crying/hyperventilating at school tomorrow, I am going to try to tell the guidence counselor, but she is probably going to laugh like my mom did. Please help me!

Pepper · 08-24-2008, 10:31 PM

Your guidance counselour won't laugh, I suggest telling someone.

Noel · 08-24-2008, 10:36 PM

I really hope she will be able to help me.

Pepper · 08-24-2008, 10:42 PM

How old are you?

There's a lot of things you can do, I know their are a lot of teenage homes if you are really unhappy at home that will still let you go to school and provide you with a place to live and such..

Noel · 08-24-2008, 10:48 PM

I am a teenager, but my parents won't let me leave them becuase I am not eighteen yet.

Pepper · 08-24-2008, 10:51 PM

Yeah, well I know here in alaska you can be forcfully emancipated from your parents if their is some sort of abuse, but I think your counsulour would have plenty of options, also, if you don't want to talk to her about it, why don't you write down or print your first post, give it to her in the morning and tell her to call you down to her office after she is done reading it so you don't have to explain it all.

Noel · 08-24-2008, 10:56 PM

That would be nice, but our printer is not working for me. I will probably just tell her. I am going to go to bed now, so I can get some sleep. Goodnight.

cshellenberger · 08-24-2008, 11:32 PM

TELL YOUR GUIDANCE COUNCELOR!!!!!! What you're describing is physical and phsycological abuse. You need to be OUT of that situation.

Elana55 · 08-25-2008, 01:41 PM

OMG.. this is awful.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE Talk to someone who can help you. NO ONE NEEDS TO BE ABUSED, regardless of their age.

emily445455 · 08-25-2008, 02:27 PM

Go to your school counselour. They are trained to help in situations like these.

LeRoymydog · 08-25-2008, 02:35 PM

What your father is doing to you is illegal. It's called child abuse. If he's hitting you with anything everywhere on your body. You need to get help ASAP!!! This IS NOT a normal "family life". Children should be adored for who they are. Not punished because they won't eat.

I feel terrible that you have to go through this. You need to get out of this situation NOW!!!!

K8IE · 08-25-2008, 05:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LeRoymydog

What your father is doing to you is illegal. It's called child abuse. If he's hitting you with anything everywhere on your body. You need to get help ASAP!!! This IS NOT a normal "family life". Children should be adored for who they are. Not punished because they won't eat.

I feel terrible that you have to go through this. You need to get out of this situation NOW!!!!

I agree. Sweetie, please talk to your counselor asap. This is not right or legal and you do not deserve this! I am here if you need to talk.

I have to ask, and of course you do not have to answer, but is this the first time your dad has done something like this?

Noel · 08-30-2008, 07:37 PM

I decided not to tell my counselor. I didn't want to, beucase I felt that I wasn't the one who needed help.

When I went to school the next day, this girl's dad shot her mom, and then shot himself.

I felt SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO bad!

Now you know why I wasn't the one who needed the help.

Filnyyena · 08-30-2008, 07:48 PM

Does he do this often to you?

And don't make excuses to back out of getting yourself help because in the end, it is YOUR life you should be worried about. Not "some girl's", admirable it may seem at the time.

Elana55 · 08-30-2008, 07:59 PM

Noel, what happened to that other family is really bad. On that day it was probably good to let the counselors concentrate on that family.

This in NO WAY minimizes the abuse you are being handed. Please do not make excuses. Please do talk to someone.

Yes. People suffer horribly at the hands of othe people. You cannot change that or make it your burden. You cannot put their lives back or fix their messes.

The ONLY thing you can do is to take care of you. Do that. Please.

AkiraleShiba · 09-01-2008, 06:41 AM

You don't have to live with that ... you can go to the police or call 911 the next time your dad does something like that. Look in the Yellow Pages there are usually the phone numbers of local organisations that can help you.

Annamarie · 09-01-2008, 06:55 PM

there is also the kids help phone.

Mr Pooch · 09-01-2008, 07:12 PM

Please dont let this continue its not fair on you.
I really feel for you,i know of people/friends who let this continue try hard to stop it whilst you can.
I know thats easier said than done but your father isnt being fair to you and thats to say the least.

All the best in whatever you do.

alphadoginthehouse · 09-01-2008, 07:23 PM

Please please talk to someone. They will not all treat you like your dad and mom. Do you have a girlfriend whose mom might be able to help you? You MUST talk to an adult. Please don't try to handle this on your own.

You reached out here an not one person laughed at you...because we care. And the fact that you reached out is a good sign. You want help and you deserve help. Please let us know how you are doing.