Let's talk weddings....

FriendsOfZoe

That or open bar!

Ella'sMom

You know, it's funny - I got married 13 years ago (almost) when I was 25. I had a BIG, lavish wedding. About 300 people. I loved the planning and all that went along with it. Fast forward to now - I would prefer a small, intimate wedding on a beach.
Your dress is beautiful - and you look beautiful in it. Congratulations to you - do what YOU want to do and not what anyone else tells you to do. If I had opted for a small wedding my parents would have been so disappointed. I have a daughter and if she ever gets engaged - I am going to encourage her to have the wedding she wants....not what I want. If you want a big traditional wedding, have it. If you want to elope in Vegas, do it. But whatever you do, make sure you're doing it because you want to be with this guy forever and ever.

FriendsOfZoe

That's such a good point! You're a good mommy lol. My parents don't really care for big family gatherings, plus my father is wheelchair bound so he doesn't have the mobility which would make planning a traditional wedding all the more difficult. They know how badly we want a house and have encouraged us to forgo the big wedding in favor of a small gathering to celebrate at some point (even if it's just out to dinner with both sides of the family). Matt's mom, on the other hand, would love for us to have a big shindig. Heck, she even has huge family parties for mother's day! She is super into the family party thing, but even she has come around...besides, she has two daughters, both of whom want big, traditional weddings, so she will get her chance!

You hear a lot of people having big weddings because that's what their parents wanted, and I don't like that. But if that's what THEY want (like Jenn and her fiance), well that's a whole different ballgame.

Ella'sMom

Thank you! That was a nice thing to say.

4dogs3cats

[quote=volleyballgk;289046]but here is what it will look like...
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I would know a maggie sottero dress anywhere. Which one is that? Mine is Olympia.

To everyone else- thank you for the kind words, it just goes to show that not everyone will want the same thing. My parents want the wedding, we want the wedding. The only regret I will have is if i DONT do the wedding. There is always time to buy a house.

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bluedawg

Get back to me when its about the bachelor party, KTHNX.

sillylilykitty

Congratulations Jenn! I'm not sure if I will ever get married. At the moment I'm 19 and never had a boyfriend, and I am in no rush to have a bf. I just want to be happy, if that means living with my dogs and cats only thats fine with me.

Now if I did find the right person I would want a wedding. A small one. My family, future husbands family, and any close friends. Thats it. I am a Christian but I dont really want to get married in a church. I love the outdoors, I wouldnt mind having my wedding in the snow, I love snow.

Mycathinks hesadog

That's the ringer for me Ella's mom that is quite the sage post

Congrats 4d3c! I'm not sure if us guys should be chiming in on this post. Everybody knows we're just worthless come wedding planning time, but I do agree have the wedding YOU want. I mean isn't this a moment you've been dreaming about since you saw your first disney movie w/ a wedding at the end? Its you're day, and I never understood why folks get so stressed for one reason or another to the point they don't enjoy thier own wedding.

Mdawn

Congrats on the wedding!! The dress is gorgeous!

I've been with my bf for 8 years. We aren't planning to get married and neither of us really want to honestly. But if we did get married, neither of us would want to have a big wedding...we'd rather save the money and have a party instead.

My sister had a traditional wedding and planned it for a long time...she stressed and stressed over it. By the time the wedding day came, she said she was "just glad to get it over with." I thought that it was a sad thing to say on your WEDDING day. So remember to keep it all about you and your future husband. Oh, I feel like I have to say this as a past bridesmaid, PLEASE don't humiliate YOUR bridesmaids by making them wear really stupid dresses...let them get something that THEY will feel pretty in as well...they will be more inclined to smile "pretty" for the camera AND will be in a much better mood during the whole thing...My sister made me wear this god awful purple dress...that didn't fit right and I felt like a blimp in it...it was terrible. Really, I'm not joking. Honestly, WHY do brides DO that to the people that are "special" enough to them to be their bridesmaids??? I've never understood it.

I've watched those shows on T.V. also about people who are planning their weddings...a lot of them think its an excuse to be rude to people with their "me, me, me" attitude. Like this one woman that insisted that one of her bridesmaids lose weight and she wouldn't be "allowed" to be a bridesmaid unless she lost the weight...To me that is to the point of being ridiculous and very cruel hearted...I won't mention what my response to this woman would have been...but it wouldn't have been nice. But I honestly think that with that nasty attitude it didn't speak well for the longevity of their marriages...Not that you'll be like that 4d3c--Shalva's comment just reminded me of that show is all...lol

FilleBelle

Congratulations, Jen! The dress is gorgeous and you look lovely in it!

I tend to think that we as a society have lost sight of what a wedding actually is. In my family, a wedding is a spiritual joining of two lives, followed by a small reception in which friends and family wish the new couple well and promise their support to the union.

I fully intend on having cake and champagne and dancing and beautiful flowers at my wedding, but it is absolutely not something that I will go into debt for and I don't want to forget that it is the marriage that is important, not the party.

4dogs3cats

Hey you guys can chime in all you want!

Yeah, i think that too. The traditional wedding is what we're doing. We're from Ny so it WILL be a big party, I never had a sweet sixteen party or anything. I know people from NY that had a 10K sweet sixteen and then a 20K wedding

My bridesmaids have to follow a certain color from a certain dress line, but I want them to each pick a style of dress that flatters THEM! I have 5 bridesmaids. 2 are very tall. 3 are very short. They all have different body styles too.

I won't be a bridezilla dont worry lol. I already picked the food and the place, and now just have to add some finishing touches. My parents told us we have to pay for the DJ, the flowers, and the Photography and my mom goes, you guys better be serious and save money otherwise we're all just gonna be standing around eating a drinking with no music or photos to remember the wedding by!

Scout

I've never understood why people stress about their weddings. A co-worker of mine just got married yesterday and for the last month or so she's been having panic attacks about last minute details. And I asked her today how it was and all she could talk about was how good her dog (the ring bearer) was...hey lady, you got married...how does THAT feel?

I think a lot of people lose focus on that fact...that it really isn't about the wedding or the party, it's about BEING MARRIED.

That being said, I had a large (to me!) wedding, about 90 people, last September. Mostly family, very few friends. My parents were amazing and paid for the whole thing. My DH's dad gave us money that went towards our honeymoon (non traditional...we went out west to the rockies and road tripped around Alberta. best time of my life). It was absolutely perfect, and if I had been the kind of kid to dream about her wedding, it was what I would've dreamt about.
I'm also lucky that my mom is an event planner so had "connections" for really good floral designers, caterers, etc.

Mdawn

I think your bridesmaid dress idea is great! I really wish my sister would have done something like that. She just had the dresses picked out that she wanted and "that was that" and they were ALL the same. I think that its nice that each dress could be a little different in style. I remember one thing my sister was freaking out about on her wedding day, its actually pretty funny in hindsight but anyway...My dad got hit in the head a few days before at work and had a terrible black eye on her wedding day...so in all the wedding pictures there is our father standing next to my sister sporting this horrible black eye...it wasn't funny to my sister at the time...but now she laughs about it.

My bf's mom has a friend that got married a few years ago. The best man was the couples old Lab. They had a tie for the dog to wear and everything. I thought that was a really cute idea.

I never thought that you'd be a bridezilla. You seem to be too sweet to be like that! It's just the extremes some of those women go to are insane...lol

volleyballgk

[quote=4dogs3cats;289214]It's called Shannon and it is a season or two back in the collection. I love all the Maggie gowns. I really love her ideas as a designer and the corset backs give you such a great fit.

4dogs3cats

[quote=volleyballgk;290780]Ohhh I remember Shannon. I almost bought Shannon. Oh I loved the Olympias corset back, I would NOT buy one without it!

volleyballgk

[quote=4dogs3cats;291064]Yup! The back on yours is just beautiful. Very elegant and it looks perfect on you. Plus now we don't have to freak out if our body changes a little bit cause you can cinch it in or let it out and the asymetrical wrapping makes your waist look sooooo tiny! I cant' tell from the pics' is there beading or embelishments along the top of the bodice?

Evie

Well, since you asked.... I think your brother is making a very intelligent choice. It isn't to say you aren't; you are just making a different choice.

I say to each his/her own, though.

Congrats!

JenTN

Beautiful dress! My DH and I got married in the courthouse, and I have no regrets. We had planned on eloping in Mexico, but I changed jobs at the last minute and we couldn't . Later on for an anniversary we will probably have a vow renewal ceremony in Mexico. I feel to each his own- some loove big weddings, I just wasn't keen on one. I would love to through my daughter one when she gets married though, lol!

4dogs3cats

Yeah, and it goes down the side too

FilleBelle

You do realize that you will have to keep us updated on every small detail of your wedding plans, right? I was supposed to be planning my own wedding by this time...grumble, grumble...I want to live vicariously through you.

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