Emotional over hair disaster

Annamarie · 11-03-2007, 02:12 PM

I don't know why I get so emotional about my hair... I cried when I got 6 inches cut off once. I've cried when I've had home-dye disasters in the past...

Yesterday I got a trim and asked her to dye my hair chocolate brown because I'm tired of dealing with roots and it's close to my natural color. It looked darker than I wanted when I left but looked ok so I wasn't worried. By the time I got home it was jet black with maroon highlights (you know, that totally fake looking color)....

I can't look in the mirror because every time I do I get upset. I'll go back tomorrow to see if she can fix it because they're closed sundays. Right now I look like a goth chick!

digits mama · 11-03-2007, 04:22 PM

Sometimes if you make a change it never turns out the way you visualize it ....at first. If you went darker it may take a few days to tone down maybe after a few shampoos. Good luck though!

Annamarie · 11-03-2007, 05:28 PM

i tried shampooing it with antidandruff shampoo which is the harshest shampoo you can use, and it's not going to come out. it's black black...

my SO is coming home today from 4 days out of town and I wanted to surprise him with my new color... well i'm pretty sure he'll be surprised!! maybe I should put on the dog's spike collar and some heavy eye liner, really shock the heck out of him lol....

i'm just so mad because this is the exact reason i go to a professional to get it done and don't do it at home. i called another salon and they assured me if i went back she could use a color remover to take it out, but the results of re-dying may be a little unpredictable. all i want is chocolate brown, is that so much to ask

Lorina · 11-03-2007, 05:52 PM

I have naturally very, very dark brown hair, and dye it to get rid of pesky greys and give it more body. I typically color it a little lighter than my natural color, because dark dyes go very dark. I've bought medium browns that looked pitch black... for a few days. After a few washings, it tends to fade out to my natural color, then a few more washings, it's the color it's actually supposed to be. By the time I need to recolor, it's faded so much I have dark roots (and more of those pesky frickin' greys!)

Annamarie · 11-05-2007, 03:26 PM

well it sounds like she's not willing to solve the problem. i don't totally blame her because i think it's my hair's fault... i had it black 2 years ago and the lady used a color remover when i changed my hair color but apparently some pigments can be left in the hair which will reactivate at any time in the future. she's not willing to do a color remover and another color because she said it will just look bad and damage my hair. she gave me a shampoo to fade the color and will talk to another lady in the salon who is apparently a whiz at color...

i spoke to another hairdresser and she said color remover won't damage my hair and although the new color might be a little unpredictable it's possible to get it lighter and more natural looking than it is now.

i may end up paying for someone else to fix the problem which really irks me.

Annamarie · 11-06-2007, 10:26 PM

it's finally starting to fade from dark black. phew!

the-tenth · 11-06-2007, 10:33 PM

Wifey is a hairdresser so I have to listen to all the hair stories. The same color will react different on different hair as well. Thin vs thick. Damaged vs healthy. IT's kind of a crap shoot the first time around. The good ones always start ighter though, because you can always go darker. Much more difficult to go lighter. It's not always their fault. They have a color swatch to go by, and that's kind of like an average. Sounds like you were on the darker end of that average.

Annamarie · 11-06-2007, 10:39 PM

ya i have horrible hair to work with... it never comes out true, which is why I should have insisted she do a test strand. next time!!

i am actually thankful my hairdresser talked me out of the color remover though. i owe her a small gift lol

the-tenth · 11-06-2007, 11:41 PM

I hear ya. I have the biggest white man afro hair ever.

TeddieXRuxpin · 11-06-2007, 11:48 PM

I've never liked my hair when I first get home from getting it dyed or cut. it takes me about a week or two to know if I hate it or love it.

Mdawn · 11-07-2007, 04:25 PM

At the beginning of summer I had my hair highlighted. I was talked into blond highlights because I have light to medium brown hair. My hairdresser said it would look "sun kissed" or something....LOL!!! I liked it at first until my sister asked me if I was getting grey hair...then my nephew asked me about why I had grey in my hair... then a few more people mentioned it... It completely ruined whatever liking I had for my hair....and it does look sort of grey looking to me now. My bf claims that he liked it...but everyone knows how guys are when they are asked if they like a woman's hair...they know that they better answer that they do or they are in big trouble. This time I really wanted an honest opinion though. LOL!!!

Annamarie · 11-07-2007, 07:45 PM

grey hair, haha i've had that too... i tried to do blonde highlights and i guess i left it in too long and it ended up looking like i had some children of the korn highlights or grey streaks or something.

my SO usually tells me "it looks ok" if he doesn't really like it, and "it looks good" if he does. "you look hot" means he really likes it lol.

the day he came home and saw my black/maroon/dark purple hair he didn't say anything. I said "don't even talk to me about my hair, i hate it". he said "well, i'm not going to lie to you... i don't like it". at least he was honest!

now that it's faded he says it looks good though. i'm still on the fence about it but as it fades i'll like it more i'm sure.