mother inlaw

angelic00 · 05-06-2007, 05:21 AM

ok well my pup is about 8months old and everytime my mother inlaw comes over she does everything opposite of my training,like my dog is still a puppy (8months)and when she jumps she knees her really hard in the chest and she gives her left over food(i dont belive in human food for a dog)and when she barks she "politally"smacks her on the nose.
I think she is a dog she will bark,my pup listens to me very well until she comes over then it all goes down the drain,how do you handle family or friends interfering with training?

Renoman · 05-06-2007, 07:40 AM

All I can say is that if you think it's tough with a dog.......wait til you have kids!

Mother in law and anyone else needs to be put politely but firmly in her place. Tell them; My house, My dog, My rules. You're training your dog the way you feel is best to have a wonderful dog you can live with. People who interfere are only giving the dog conflicting signals and confusing her, which makes it harder for you. The next time she knees the dog, or hits her on the nose, I'd be hard pressed not to tell her to never do that again in my 'not so nice' voice.

Make sure your spouse is in full agreement with you, you don't want a major war breaking out.

briteday · 05-06-2007, 06:29 PM

Perhaps if MIL is just visiting for a few hours I would choose to put my dog in its crate for a "little nap since she's been so busy today!" And put the crate in another room. Or perhaps the dog could be outside in the yard, if you have one.

Renoman · 05-06-2007, 06:46 PM

Segregating the dog really shouldn't be the answer since you want her to socialize and interact with people coming into the house. The better answer may be to crate mother in law

Opps, sorry! Did I say that out loud?

It seems that the problem here is family coming into your house, treating the dog as if she were theirs and totally ignoring your wishes. Not acceptable in my book. They get to go home and don't have to deal with the dog 24/7. You, on the other hand have to deal with the dog and try to undo what's been done by visitors. I'd speak up but that's just me. My dogs come before anyone, anywhere, anytime, and I really don't care if anyone has a problem with that.

Curbside Prophet · 05-06-2007, 06:53 PM

Crate train the MIL?

LOL!

Or maybe put an umbilical cord on your dog (leash tied to you), you can suggest that your dog is in training...your training.

Otherwise you may need to umbilical cord your hubby back to his mom.

Mary22 · 05-06-2007, 08:16 PM

I also have the same problem! Except my mother in law does the laundry so I don't complain too much.......... about ANYTHING ... yes, I HATE doing laundry!

poodleholic · 05-07-2007, 03:58 AM

Short of crating your MIL (too funny!), your best bet is to prevent your MIL from access to your puppy during this critical learning period when he's so vulnerable. Crate your puppy with a stuffed Kong to keep him occupied, and keep him in the bedroom while she's there. Her lack of respect for you now is just the tip of the iceberg. If you decide to have children, it's going to be pure h*** unless you nip this in the bud now. Your house, your rules, your puppy.

Jen D · 05-07-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by briteday

Perhaps if MIL is just visiting for a few hours I would choose to put my dog in its crate for a "little nap since she's been so busy today!" And put the crate in another room. Or perhaps the dog could be outside in the yard, if you have one.

Great idea!!!!

Jen D · 05-07-2007, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Renoman

Segregating the dog really shouldn't be the answer since you want her to socialize and interact with people coming into the house. The better answer may be to crate mother in law

Opps, sorry! Did I say that out loud?

It seems that the problem here is family coming into your house, treating the dog as if she were theirs and totally ignoring your wishes. Not acceptable in my book. They get to go home and don't have to deal with the dog 24/7. You, on the other hand have to deal with the dog and try to undo what's been done by visitors. I'd speak up but that's just me. My dogs come before anyone, anywhere, anytime, and I really don't care if anyone has a problem with that.

I devorced my MIL and have saved on Christmas presents! That is to funny crate the MIL

Jen D · 05-07-2007, 08:58 AM

Have you tried to tell the MIL that pup is in training and everyone needs to follow the training you and your husband has picked or pup can't be around her.

Ivanhoe29 · 05-08-2007, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Jen D

Have you tried to tell the MIL that pup is in training and everyone needs to follow the training you and your husband has picked or pup can't be around her.

This is probably your most politically correct answer.

BTW, when I saw the subject title under the training section, I immediately thought, "Ohh, training for MILs..."