Guilt

Northern_Inuit_Luv · 10-06-2009, 01:28 PM

We put our dog to sleep yesterday...and even though I know it was the right choice, and I have been trying to talk my mom into this decision for the last few weeks, I feel so guilty. And I feel like I made the wrong choice. Thinking about her just going to sleep is just horrible. What if she would have gotten better? How were we to know when her time was up?

josephga · 10-06-2009, 09:59 PM

I truly understand how you feel. I had to put my spencer to sleep last tuesday and I feel horrible guilt. Was it my right to play god? I think I did what spencer wanted and that was too end his 9 months of pain. To put him b4 myself but iv second guessed it everyday.

blongfi2 · 10-06-2009, 10:47 PM

I understand how you are feeling completely. I had to make the choice to put my dog to sleep on Saturday. It was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. It was so sudden and I wish it happened differently. However, it is important to realize that you did make the best choice. Unfortunately we have to make the decision for them which is incredibly hard but it is better that they do not suffer. I have cried so much since thinking things should have gone differently but I also have to consider what would have happened if I made a different choice. My dog might not have survived the surgery and never been able to walk again. I know it is hard to deal with the choice you made, but remember that your dog loved you more than anything and it would not want you to feel guilty about your choice.

Northern_Inuit_Luv · 10-07-2009, 06:38 PM

Thanks for you kind words. Yesterday was really hard on me. I'm doing better today. I went to visit my mom and we took my dogs on a long walk. We are both healing...on and off moments throughout the day, but we're getting there.

DJsMom · 10-07-2009, 07:22 PM

You did the right thing, rest assured.
I think the guilt feeling is just natural, something all of us feels when we are faced with this choice. But for some reason you knew in your heart it was the right thing to do, don't second guess yourself.
My heart goes out to you & your mom

whisper1662 · 10-09-2009, 08:54 AM

I agree with the other posters. I had to put my Trixie down last Friday and it was the hardest thing I think that I have ever had to do. She had cancer and I know that she was hurting and there was nothing that could be done. It has been a week now, and it is still hard. Just give it time and remember the good years that you had with your beloved pet.

Cracker · 10-09-2009, 09:01 AM

Too all of you who have suffered the recent losses...I am sorry for your losses. It's never easy.
I put my 16 year old cat, Vandal, down in late June. He was sick and suffering and I do not regret the decision at all. It was not a difficult decision, it is the LOSS that is hard. I personally think it a blessing that we have the option of ending our beloved furries pain and discomfort and that it is an act of LOVE.
Try not to feel guilty, you have released your animal from suffering and taken on the suffering yourself, this is an act of bravery and love.

Northern_Inuit_Luv · 10-09-2009, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Cracker

Too all of you who have suffered the recent losses...I am sorry for your losses. It's never easy.
I put my 16 year old cat, Vandal, down in late June. He was sick and suffering and I do not regret the decision at all. It was not a difficult decision, it is the LOSS that is hard. I personally think it a blessing that we have the option of ending our beloved furries pain and discomfort and that it is an act of LOVE.
Try not to feel guilty, you have released your animal from suffering and taken on the suffering yourself, this is an act of bravery and love.

that was beautiful, thank you

jasminesmom · 10-11-2009, 08:24 AM

On 9-04-09 I also had to make that heart wrenching decision. My Jasmine was suffering from side effects for ProIn and had not eaten nor drank water for 3 days. She looked so sad and tired. Its a day I will never forget. Hoping she would get better, knowing she would not.

Pickleisaminidaschi · 10-11-2009, 12:28 PM

I completly understand what you are saying. A few weeks ago I had to put my cat Olivia down. I found her along a busy highway and took her home but she never gained weight and started to limp and we took her to the vet and it turned out she had cat aids or leukemia. I felt really bad putting her down.