our dog is male but when he was neutered he reacted more to the cone than to the stitches. we got him one of those doggy diapers at the pet store and watched him like a hawk so he could have the cone off and he was a lot happier. he didn't really care about his stitches, just sniffed them a few times more to see what the heck was there and why his nuts were gone
if you do a search online there are some inflatable or soft elizabethan collars that might help instead of the cone, if that's what's bugging her (pinching her maybe?)
you could also try giving her something really tasty to chew on like a big beef leg bone that might keep her mind off it.